Stylish Summer Dresses via the Post

Stylish Summer Dresses via the Post

As you know we rarely travel back to the UK, but when we do, one of the things we enjoy is shopping. After being away for so long the thing that strikes you the most when you visit a British High Street or shopping centre is the scale of everything. There is so much choice. If you are not used to it actually feels a little overwhelming.

Here, on the islands, life is a lot simpler. Most of the stores are small, so choice is limited, but you can usually find what you want. We dress casually most of the time, but every now and again it is nice to wear something a bit different.

This is especially true if you have a special party to attend, so I have been online looking at the dresses, on this site. Having friends and family still in the UK gives me the option to buy something and have it sent over. It takes a while, and postage is expensive, but if I see something I really like it is worth doing.

stylish summer dresses via the post

Lightweight maxi dresses

There are some lovely dresses there, so I must admit to being sorely tempted. It is nice to see that t-shirt style maxi dresses are still in fashion in the UK. Most of the time you would be too hot wearing a long dress here, but some evenings it gets cooler. In that situation one of the nice lace style maxi dresses would be ideal for a special occasion. Soft, simply cut, and figure hugging they look really elegant, without being too formal.

For an evening meal, in a restaurant near the beach, a nice sleeveless cotton dress would be a practical option. There are some really lovely floral patterns available, which are simple enough to fit in with our beautiful islands unique style of dress.

Skater dresses

It is also good to see skater dresses coming back into vogue. For this climate, they are a more practical option. Most are cut just above the knee, so your legs are left bear, which really helps you to stay cool. The way the skirt flares slightly from low on the hip, which creates a particularly pleasing silhouette.

Flattering swing dresses

If you are looking for something that doesn’t sit so tight around your tummy, you can get a similar look by opting for a swing dress. This cut hangs a little looser, and has no defined waistline. Usually the folds start just below the breast bone, which means that the dress material skims over the stomach area. Unfortunately, most of the swing dresses I have seen online, this year, have long sleeves, so I doubt I will be ordering one.

Choosing the right style

If you are interested in shopping for dresses online, you will find this page particularly helpful. The article you will find there will help you to determine which cuts are best for your body type, and sense of style.

What’s your go to summer dress style?

Crime In The Seychelles – A reflection on being the victim of theft.

Crime in the Seychelles

It’s been about a year and a half since I wrote the post The Darker Side of Expat Life In The Seychelles and it’s still the most viewed page on my blog.  I read it again the other day. It made me reflect on how I felt about being broken in to, and about crime in the Seychelles in general.

I thought I’d start writing those feelings down. I know that many of the people reading that post are researching if it’s safe to live in Seychelles and about crime in the Seychelles in general. Hopefully this post will give a bit more of a rational insight into how safe it feels to live here.

The original post was written a couple weeks after our house was broken in to while we were all asleep. Despite waiting those couple of weeks, I was still feeling very raw and vulnerable about it all.

At the time of writing I was wrestling with wanting to move from the house we were in. We have now moved. I must stress that the main reason was that Mark was promoted and we needed to be nearer to school. I was happy to move though, despite the house being made a lot more secure. When something like that happens it’s difficult to forget it. I was not sleeping properly and was paranoid about any person around. That would be the case wherever in the world it happened, of course!

crime in the seychelles

 

Is it safe to live on Praslin?

I feel safe here. If I didn’t feel safe we would have moved on by now, without a doubt. No matter how much we love it here, or how well Mark’s career is going, our family safety will always come first.

We are all living safer though, which is important. By that, I mean we are all more aware of keeping ourselves and our valuables safe. That seems a bit ridiculous to read. I don’t mean that we ever felt like we weren’t looking after ourselves properly, but we have certainly been guilty of living naively of the fact that crime existed.

At night I still wake up thinking I can hear someone in the house, I hate that. I don’t know if that will ever go away. Maybe it’s best if it doesn’t though. Perhaps living with that fear will help to keep us safe. I hope so.

Do I think expats are targeted for crime? In short, yes.  Someone did comment on the post saying that I was arrogant to think that (I chose not to publish that one!!!) I don’t think that all expats are targeted, it is a generalisation, and of course Seychellois are also victims of robberies too.

Crime in the Seychelles

Is there a safer side of the island?

We have been in our new house for over a year now and I do feel pretty safe here. There was a feeling at the time that the side we are living now is safer. Honestly, I don’t think that is the case. I know of break ins all over the island.
Sadly a house very near to ours was recently broken into. It was a reality check and a reminder that it can happen anywhere.

crime in the seychelles

What type of crime happens here?

I’m pleased to say that on Praslin (I don’t want to say for Mahe as I really don’t know!) I have not heard of any violent crime towards expats. There is very little violent crime at all. This definitely helps in feeling safer.

The main type of crime undoubtedly is theft. Mostly it will be for small easy to sell items such as hard drives, tablets, smart phones and jewellery.  Perhaps the saddest thing is that things stolen are mostly sold for drug money.

Drugs are undoubtedly, a growing problem here.  I’m told its worse on Mahe than Praslin.  I will say that it is, by no means, at the point where you can feel or sense that when you’re out and about.  I don’t ever feel unsafe when I’m out.  Of course, you wouldn’t want to leave valuables lying around anywhere, but that is no different to anywhere else in the world.

Will it happen again?

I spoke to Mark about this and if he felt it would ever happen again. Sadly, we agreed, the answer to that is almost certainly, yes.  The house we are living in is a lot more secure, and as I mentioned we live a lot more aware of the possibility of theft and act accordingly.  But, no house is perfect and we are not perfect.

We don’t live in fear of it happening again, we lead normal daily lives.  Now we just live with our eyes more open to the fact that theft happens.  We keep our valuables secure and have a bit of a routine to ensure that no doors or windows are left unlocked while we are out, or at night.  Nothing major, just normal sensible security.  We should have done it from the start, but I don’t mind admitting that I did love that little safe bubble we felt like we lived in for the first couple of years here!

 

 

Arthur and Freddie April 2017

Arthur and Freddie April 2017

Its been a month, well yes it has been over a month.  But I thought I’d check back in with an update on the boys.  Last month’s update is here if you want a read

Its been a crazy month, Mark has been super busy in school, both of the boys were poorly for a couple of weeks.  We are definitely all very happy the Easter holidays have just started here nd can catch up on some much needed down time.

 

Arthur, aged 3 years and 9 months

Being poorly came at a bad time as his class had just started practicing for their school show. By the time he got back into school he just wasn’t up for it at all.  His class were going to be doing magic tricks and Arthur loved his little trick of making a ball disappear. He just was not cool with the idea of getting up on the stage, or being part of a larger production.  He even stopped wanting to go into school at all.

The day of the show came and Arthur had said he wanted to do it, I took him down for it and he got really scared and upset and didn’t even want to watch the show.  I felt so sad for him that evening.  It was a really tough parenting experience trying to figure out the boundaries of how far you should be encouraging and pushing them out of their comfort zone.

The next day in school he was happy as could be and they started preparing for his sports day.

I couldn’t believe that he was going to join in but he had an absolutely fantastic time – he did all the races and he really enjoyed it.  He was super proud of his medal at the end too.

Arthur April 2017

Arthur has also started to swim out of his depth!  We are so proud of the confidence he’s showing in the water!  He loves swimming, and its amazing that he’s now taken the step to go into the deep too!!  Of course, this does mean we are on extra alert watching him now but its a huge achievement!!

He has developed some serious sass in this last month, we are getting plenty of ‘I don’t like you’ and ‘This is Rubbish’. All in all though he’s still bloody cute most of the time – and still never forgets a please and a thank you!

Arthur April 2017

 

 

Freddie aged 21 months

Freddie was poorly at the same time as Arthur. I was starting to worry because he really wasn’t eating much at all.  Luckily, he has bounced back and is eating pretty well again.  He does have a serious sweet tooth though.

Freddie April 2017

It didn’t take him long for the little bit of shyness to break down with my Mum and Dad. He is just as besotted with them as Arthur is.  They couldn’t believe how strong a character he is.  Most of our Skype calls are taken up with Arthur, so it was really nice for them to get a chance to have some time with Freddie while Arthur was at school.  He certainly holds his own when they are together too!

Freddie has lots of words now, most of which are related to the Ocean! Fish, Whale, Shark, tocto (Octopus), Boat are all favourites.  He also has started to say Bye to things, mostly “bye fish” and “bye tree”

He loves ‘shooing’ birds, pointing out geckos, bugs, birds, cats, dogs and anything else he can find!  He’d spend all day every day outside if he could.  A true island boy!

Freddie is pretty sassy too.  He knows when he’s doing something he shouldn’t and gives a huge grin after!  I think we are in for some trouble with him as he gets older!

Freddie April 2017

Together

When the boys were sick I thought I would have a total nightmare with both of them at home.  I was really lucky that despite being poorly, they continued to be great together.

Then when my parents arrived I was certain that Arthur would be really possessive of them and not give Freddie a look in.  He yet again pleasantly surprised me.Arthur and Freddie April 2017

Freddie thinks Arthur is the best and wants to be doing everything his big brother is doing.  Arthur is still more than happy with having Freddie join in on his games too which makes me so happy!!

I took this picture after Arthur’s sports day.  There is lots about it that isn’t ‘picture perfect’.  Arthur is still in his sports kit, Freddie doesn’t have shorts on, and of course neither are looking at the camera.  But, I still love it!!!

Arthur and Freddie April 2017

We have one more week of Easter holidays together.  After that, its back to school for Arthur and work for Mark.  I’m enjoying every second of us being all together before the madness of school starts up again!

I’ll be back next month with another update!

Things To Prepare For When The Baby Arrives

Things to Prepare For When the Baby Arrives

Having a baby can be an exciting time for everyone involved. However, there is also a lot of planning, preparation and anxiety that might also come into play. What needs to be done before baby’s arrival? How are you going to handle your current load of tasks? What will the baby be like?

Instead of working about everything together, it is strongly recommended that you take it one step at a time. By taking care of multiple things, you’re easily able to enjoy all that comes from having a baby and not the stress you feel about getting everything ready.

Here is a short list of things you should consider taking care of prior to baby’s arrival. This way, everything is set to go for that big birth day to come!

things to prepare for when baby arrives

Work Out Things with Work

Whether you’re the mother, or father-to-be, it is important to consider working with your place of employment. Setting a specific time off, come back date and other financial worries ahead of time can put everyone in the best mindset. Having this taken care of before the baby arrives also ensures that you’re not stressing or running around worrying about work and things that have to do with work.

Get Baby’s Items in Order

Making sure that you have everything for the baby when it comes home is also a big plus. You want to make sure you have enough diapers, clothes, wipes, a car seat, bed and so on for the baby. Having the proper breastfeeding or bottle feeding supplies is also a must along with the Best Sit and Stand Strollers of 2017 to get baby home. Generally, you may have a baby shower which is where you’ll get most of these things, but if you’re missing some items or if you didn’t have a shower then it may be time to head out and grab the necessities.

Clean Up the House

A lot of women tend to ‘nest’ which is when you clean every ounce of the home. This is something that you might want to do just to make you feel better, or something that you have to do before baby’s arrival. It is important to think about cleaning the big areas of the home where they baby might be. Clean the baby’s room, organize and put away everything. Go through a checklist of rooms while you clean to stay organized and make sure everything is where it should be.

Prepare Other Children

If you have other children, now is the time to think about preparing them for their new sibling. With this in mind, you’re going to want to think about being able to show them the baby and have them know what is going to happen. Babies take up a lot of the parent’s time, so preparing them for this new change is a good way to go. Make sure to let them know that they’re always welcome to help with the new baby and how special this is!

Consider Parenting Decisions

You and your partner should be on the same page when it comes to decisions. If this is your first baby, it is important to lay down these decisions before the baby comes and ask for help from you nurse during the first moments of your baby’s life. How do you want to feed baby, what do you want to do sleep wise, how is this baby going to fit into everything that happens within your lives? You need to have a clear plan as a parenting couple on what is going to be done and how it is going to be done.

Preparing for baby is a great way to prepare yourself for the long journey ahead. Enjoy parenting when baby arrives and congratulations on your new bundle of joy!

Sleep is So Important for Children: Nail the Bedtime Routine

There are statistics that show that children, all over the world, are getting less sleep than ever before. This is an alarming trend which some devastating consequences. Not being able to concentrate and focus in school is just the tip of the iceberg. Tired children could develop behavioural problems. In addition, family lives become disrupted and parents become distraught and stressed. There are a number of reasons that children aren’t getting enough sleep. Take a look at this post to see what the problems are and how to solve them…

Why Aren’t Children Getting Enough Sleep?

Why aren't children getting enough sleep

 

 

It is recommended that those aged around three years old should have about 11 hours of sleep a night. This drops to 10 hours for ten-year-olds, and nine hours for 15-year-olds. Often children aren’t getting this amount of sleep.

 

Some of the most common reasons for this lack of sleep include poor diets, dependance on technology and parent working longer hours. All of these can contribute to the problem of poor sleep and have to be tackles.

 

How Can We Improve Our Child’s Sleep?

How to improve our children's sleep

 

 

One of the main things to do is switch off all electronics and hour or so before bed. You may think that watching cartoons or playing on an iPad is calming your child down, but it’s not. What technology actually does is keep us awake. Basically, the light that comes from the TV or your smartphone or computer disrupts the production of melatonin. Melatonin is a hormone which is released as the sun goes down. It makes us feel tired. This is part of the problem. The other problem is that children are becoming increasingly ‘addicted’ to technology. It’s difficult for children to switch off both mentally, and literally, from the piece of tech they’re using before bed. When they do tear themselves away their brains are still working overdrive and they haven’t calmed down.

 

Poor diet is another problem. If our children are eating the wrong things before, or too close to bed, they won’t settle. Avoid any sugary foods before bed. This will cause an energy spike and make them restless. Instead, a healthy balanced meal is best. Give your child time to digest before bed. This means they won’t be up during the night needing the toilet.

 

Another way to improve sleep is to focus on the small things. Make sure your child has a bath before bed. Hot soapy water is a great way to relax a child. In addition, it will make distracting them from screen easier. Once they’ve had a bath make sure you have comfortable pajamas for them to slip into. Kids Fendi have some great options which are soft on children’s skin and comfortable. Avoid anything too restrictive. Then read a story or have some quiet time before bed. No overly stimulating play or computer screens. Get your child into this routine so that they know it’s coming up to bedtime.

 

sleep is so important for children: how to nail the bedtime routine

Arthur and Freddie March 2017

Arthur and Freddie March 2017

It has been far too long since I’ve written a post about Arthur and Freddie.

I have no idea why I stopped doing their monthly updates because I absolutely loved it.  At the start of the year I promised myself that I would start writing them again.  Its now March and I haven’t done so.

However, I’m changing that today!  So here is a little post about Arthur and Freddie, as they are, right now!!

 

Arthur, aged 3years and 8months

Arthur: March 2017

This boy, is unbelievable right now.  I can not explain how proud I am of Arthur at the moment.  The thing that makes me most proud of Arthur right now has to be his manners.  He ALWAYS remembers his please and thank you’s and I love that.

He is always so happy to help whenever he can, and even when he can’t he’s right there wanting to!  He’s definitely is ready to start getting involved with some projects at home

We are working on building up his attention span because it can be pretty short.  We are getting some great support from school with this.

Arthur’s speech has come on immeasurably since he started school, every day he surprises me with something new.  I’m not exaggerating when I say that there has been real progress on a weekly basis.  His teacher and all our friends and family have noticed it and it is a big relief.  Its been something I have chosen not to speak about on here but it has been a big worry for us all.  There is still progress to be made but we are all delighted with the progress he has made so far!!

Arthur is building some lovely friendships at the moment and its so nice to see.  There are a couple of kids in his class who he is particularly fond of and he is so happy to see them every morning.  He is also so lucky to have the friendships of all mine and Mark’s friends too, they love him and look out for him so much.  Our ‘expat family’ is something I am eternally grateful for being so far away from our own!

A huge thing for Arthur in this last month is that he has all of a sudden turned into a full on fish!  He has ALWAYS loved the water but now, not only is he going underwater, he is actually starting to swim too! All by himself, he decided he was ready!

Arthur swimming at 3.5years old

Freddie aged 19 months

Freddie: March 2017

Where to start with Freddie!!!  He is honestly hilarious. I can’t believe how much he genuinely cracks me up on a daily basis.

At 19 months he is pretty sure he can do everything his brother can and theres not a lot thats going to stop him!  He is fearless, and oh so determined.  Freddie’s so happy every day when we get Arthur from school, although dragging him away when we drop him off in the morning is becoming a challenge – he loves going into class with ‘the big kids’.

This month Freddie was sick for almost a week.  He had a horrible fever, that seemed to spike in the afternoon. Also, he was eating very little the whole time.  I think I worried about this more than normal as when he had his 18month injection he hadn’t really gained any weight.  Now, rational me knows that they go through phases of this.  But, panic-y worrying about being judged by everyone me went into a bit of a meltdown over this!  He is eating again now, although he is becoming really picky which is SO annoying!!

We can’t get over how stroppy he can be.  I know time puts rose tinted glasses on things but I am sure he throws bigger, and much longer tantrums then Arthur did at this age.  Another sign of just how strong willed Freddie is.

My favourite thing about Freddie right now is how, when he’s tired, he comes and lies down over his legs or plops himself onto the bed or any soft object around.  Then he wants me to tickle his back.  Its so cute, he goes all super cuddly and lovely!

Freddie is starting to pick up quite a few words.  ‘No’ is a definite favourite.  He says Mummy a lot and also, ‘fish’ ‘shark’ and ‘whale’ in true island boy fashion!

 

Together

Arthur & Freddie March 2017

Together, Arthur and Freddie are becoming a real team.  They still love to be in each others company and mostly wants the other to be involved with whatever they are doing.  I’m starting to notice that if one is upset and having a cuddle with me, the other is all of a sudden upset and wants the same too.   Freddie is really copying things Arthur is doing, and saying too.

Arthur really looks out for Freddie.  The other day we had an interesting incident where Arthur pushed Freddie but it was because he was getting him away from the oven (not on) that he was trying to touch.  We were really happy that Arthur was protecting Freddie but had to at the same time tell him that he shouldn’t have pushed him!

 

A reflection on writing every day for a month

So, it has again been a little while!

I have finished my writing for Culture Trip, if you want to check out the posts I wrote for them you can view them here

If you missed that I was doing that writing, a little catch up.  I was contacted by Culture Trip and asked if I would write articles about the Seychelles for them. The commission was to write 30 articles in month.  This would mean me writing every day for a month, something I’d never done before.

I was delighted to take up the opportunity.  I knew it was going to stretch me out of my comfort zone but I felt ready for the challenge.

They use WordPress which I already use for this blog and so I knew Id be comfortable with the technical side of the writing.

I thought Id share my experience of writing every day for a month, the ups and downs!

writing every day for a month

How did I feel writing every day for a month?

This is something I didn’t think Id have to write about but honestly I found doing this hugely emotional.  Now looking back, I can see that it was really good for me, but at the time there were days when I found it so hard.

Getting real feedback on my writing was something I’d never really had before.  Having it critiqued I found pretty tough at the time.  After one article in particular I had a definite low point.  I felt not good enough, like I had bitten off more than I could chew.  After all I am not a ‘professional writer’ by trade, I don’t have any particular qualifications in it.

But then I had good days.  Days where I sat and thought, actually, who says I’m not a professional writer?  Ive been successfully blogging for 3 years and after all it was them who contacted me to write for them.  I can do this!!

 

What were the biggest challenges?

There were certainly plenty of challenges for me writing every day for a month.  Having a written commitment to something like this made me put a lot of pressure on myself.

I hadn’t expected to find challenges using WordPress, after all I use that already.   There were some things I had to get used to though with certain requirements of the company both in writing style and procedures.

The thing I found the hardest was getting good quality pictures.  Even with access to things like Flickr, Shutterstock and things like wiki images.  As it was for a business all images had to be copyright free and that was the challenge.

The last week of the commission, Mark was in the UK for work.  Honestly that week was terrible.  But, I got through it.  As soon as the boys were in bed every night I sat down at the computer and wrote for about 5 hours.  It sucked, but I did it!

 

What did I learn?

I really did learn so much from this experience.  Its only been a couple of weeks since Ive finished and I can already feel myself rose tinting it.

I learned that being a work at home mum is crazy!  I pretty quickly realised that I was only really going to be able to get anything done while the boys were asleep.  This meant that Monday to Friday while Arthur was at school I had two hours in the morning while Freddie napped.  Then I had the evenings.  Weekends were a bit more hodge podge in the day, grabbing time when I could.

Having a deadline was, despite the emotional rollercoaster, really good for my writing.  I found that I could get so much done being under time pressure. I became organised and did very little procrastination – Something I am terrible for when writing my blog!  Moving forward with any writing I do, I will certainly be putting deadlines on myself!

I really learned a lot about where I live!!  Its easy to get a little complacent sometimes, but there was plenty I learned while writing these posts and it has definitely inspired me to get out and learn more.

Reaching out to big companies is not so scary!  I was in touch with some really big name hotels and people who I would never normally have dreamed to have the confidence to speak to, and you know what?  People were really receptive to speaking to me, interested in what I was writing about, and helping me with information, pictures etc.  That was definitely a confidence boost.

I still have lots to say!  I am definitely guilty at times of feeling like I’ve lost my voice.  Blogging obviously does help that, but writing for someone else reminded me that I’m not just a Mum, that there is still someone who can work and get things done!!  *I definitely don’t think being a Mum ever deserves the ‘just’ but its a weird thing I do where I decide thats what people think about me since I don’t work!

 

 

The night that I finished my writing, I called my Mum and Dad.  It was around 10pm my time (6 in the UK) and I am not sure I have ever felt more proud of myself.  I had a celebratory rum while chatting with them – I am an island girl after all, so it really did have to be rum! It was a seriously tough month but I got there!!

What I learned from writing every day for a month