Making the most of Arthur!
Today I spent a lot of time thinking just how soon Arthur will not be an only child any more.
My pregnancy is flying by, I’m almost half way already. This is, at least partly I’m sure, due to the fact that I have Arthur keeping me very busy!
I am writing this post, I guess, as a reminder to myself, to really make the most of enjoying Arthur as he is now. My special little guy. He’s growing so fast and as much as he, of course throws toddler tantrums he really is a lovely boy. So affectionate and so funny.
I know that come August his little world is going to be turned upside down.
This makes me both excited and a little worried!
Every night we put Arthur to bed, Mark and I will always make some sort of comment about Arthur being awesome. Not deliberately, like some weird mantra thing! It just comes out!
I am excited that, after not so long he will have his own little play mate! I know that he will be a wonderful big brother and will love the company!
I worry that he will feel left out when his little brother or sister arrives. We will, of course, do all we can to make sure that’s not the case!
I also feel sad that I won’t be able to give all my attention to Arthur like he has now. I already feel guilty for this. I know really though that although it will be hard, it will be good for him to learn to be a little more independent, to learn to share me with someone else.
But for now, I want to count my lucky stars for the time I have already had, and the time I will have just Arthur and I. For the time we spend as the three of us!
I’ll be sure that this time is spent making the most of Arthur!
Ahhh one of the things I found hardest was worrying about my girl being pushed out but she was fine! I think it bothers us more than them. As we are mad! x
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Yes think you’re right, totally mad!! Glad it’s not just me being crazy by myself though!!! Xx
Oh this is so lovely. I’m sure Arthur will be a wonderful brother. Hopefully you and he can still have some one on one time when the newbie arrives. Gorgeous post and thanks so much for linking lovely xxx
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I remember feeling like this too. We were at a kids birthday party and I said something like ‘I’m worried I’ll never be able to love another child as much’. One of the mums who had just had her second said “when the time comes, you’ll have enough love to go around” and she was right. You can’t split yourself up, and it is bloody hard work, but you’ll find a way of managing so you get special mummy time with each of them xxx
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I remember feeling like this too. We were at a kids birthday party and I said something like ‘I’m worried I’ll never be able to love another child as much’. One of the mums who had just had her second said “when the time comes, you’ll have enough love to go around” and she was right. You can’t split yourself up, and it is bloody hard work, but you’ll find a way of managing so you get special mummy time with each of them xx
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That’s a beautiful photo.
The day I went in to have M I cried for H, I knew he would be ok and I knew he would love having a sibling, but I cried because he was so young and didn’t understand how his world was about to completely change. Enjoy these few months as a 3 and soon you will have an extra person in all of those memories. X
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I too mourned the special relationship I had with my eldest when the second came along. But it really doesn’t take long and you can’t imagine not having two!
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It’s amazing how quickly they and you adapt. There’s 4.5 years between C & the twins but it was like they have always been together and it’s so lovely xx
Ps your pregnancy really is flying! I remember when you announced it x
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It’s normal to feel like this but it won’t be long after the baby is born and Arthur won’t remember ever being an only child. That’s one nice thing about having them close together. Do you have any books you can read to him to introduce him to the idea of being a sibling? We had one called Sophie and the New Baby which was great, although might work less well as he’s a boy (there again at this age it doesn’t really matter). You probably already know this but buying him a doll that can be his baby when yours comes is another thing that can work well. Our eldest pushed hers around in the buggy, breastfed her, sat with her on the potty. …
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Just think how much you are giving Arthur as well, I keep reminding myself of this!!xx
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I was worried like this too and my great friend, brilliant blogger Uju of Babes About Town wisely advised me my love would multiply not divide, much love #countyourluckystars x
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It’s a great way to look at it 🙂 thanks lovely! Xx
Awww parenting guilt, it just never goes does it. Obviously we have made the decision to stick with just the one child but when I have thought about a 2nd I think my biggest fear has been the cost and the time. The cost of having two and then not being able to do the things with the 2nd that we did with our 1st. If that makes sense. However I am sure that as long as you bring big brother in to everything and involved him he will not notice much difference. Thank you for linking up to #CountLuckyStars honey. x
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I remember worrying too, but as others have said, you and Arthur will be fine. But, I did make sure that I made the most of the months before number two (and then three!) arrived; and even after, to make sure each has a bit of time that is just for them x #countluckystars
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I think it something a lot of people would be concerned about, I would worry about the change it would make to Boo, not that we have any plans at all at the min but it’s still something I would think about.
I think it’s great that you are focusing on the time you are spending with your little boy, he is going to have so much fun with his little playmate =)
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Thank you lovely! It is definitely a hard thing to think about but I know that change doesn’t mean a bad thing!! Xx
I think I will have exactly the same worries as you when my time comes around again. But such a lovely post Chantelle. We, too, are always marvelling about Monkey and how amazing he is. I bet once little one comes along, Arthur will be so excited and he can help mummy a lot and be the big brother! xx
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Ahh I totally understand this, it’s hard to make the change from giving your little boy everything to having the split you time. Honestly it is something I still struggle with now and feel guilty over. I would say making the most of the time you have just you two is the best, there will be times when you can have time with just Arthur when the new baby arrives and then those times will be extra special too. Lovely photo of you both xx #CountLuckyStars
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Thank you Hayley! It’s nice to read that others felt the same way too! I definitely need to make sure to try and continue special one on one time with Arthur when the baby comes!! Xx
I was very worried about making the transition from one to two (with a similar age gap) turns out it was the best thing we could have done for our son. He is thick as thieves with his sister and they really look out for eachother. He does not even remember a time when she was not in his life. I was very worried about 2-3 but from the moment we told them they were overjoyed and said ‘their baby’ was the best present they ever had.
Arthur will be a wonderful big brother
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This has made me so happy to read I can’t even tell you!!
We wanted Arthur to be young enough not to remember a time without his baby brother or sister as well it seemed like a good thing to do! I love that your three are so close 🙂 xx
What a lovely post, I had the same feelings when I was pregnant and even now, 15 months into having a new baby I have to remind myself to have 1:1 time with my biggest baby. I just try and remind her all the time that she is my baby too, she likes that xxx
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Thank you 🙂
Ahh that’s really sweet I like that idea a lot!!! Xx
Aaah lovely, try not to feel guilty, he’ll be fine and I reckon probably not old enough to be that jealous. As you say, he’ll love having a playmate! It’s weird, I can’t remember a time now when it was just Freddie x
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I felt very much like this too. Thankfully our boy has adjusted very well so far, and I’ve been making an effort to spend some special time just with him when the baby is sleeping. We also say every day to each other how awesome he is!!
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That’s really lovely to hear that it’s going so well 🙂 and that you’re managing to get special one on one time with your little awesome guy too! Xx
We are about to turn our boys’ lives upside down, but hopefully for the better! There’s a two year age gap between me and my brother and we’ve always got on really well. I’m hoping Toby has the same sort of relationship with his brother or sister. And we just have to remember we’ve been lucky to get two years with just Toby and Arthur on their own – their siblings won’t have that luxury! xx
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My biggest worry was for my 2nd when our 3rd came along, he was so used to being the centre of attention that I was expecting big jealously, but he surprised us all and now he and Harry are the best of friends with not an ounce of jealousy between them!
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I’ve felt this with each new pregnancy and it doesn’t get any easier to deal with the guilt either. But you are creating a sibling for Arthur and that is magical. A playmate, a friend and a lifelong buddy. Why feel guilty about that?
Thank you for linking up to #MaternityMatters x x
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You’re right it definitely is a wonderful thing!! It’s good to know it’s not just me being silly feeling like this though thanks lovely xx
I worry about this too as z has been centre of attention for so long!! But then I know that having a sibling will hopefully be an awesome thing. Arthur will be the most amazing brother ever and I bet you’ll love watching your boys play together in the sun every day x
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Thank you for the lovely comment that’s really sweet 🙂 I think both our boys are going to be fab big brothers!!! Xx