What’s wrong with having two boys?!
So, it’s happened!
We told someone we know that we are having another boy and we got
Accompanied with a sympathetic look and a hold of my hand.
I was totally stunned.
It wasn’t until I walked away that I got angry about it.
It’s not like I’ve been saying that I was desperate to have a girl. Even if I had, why would anyone ever say that to someone?
Why is it that people feel you should have a boy and a girl, one of each, to be happy? Like having two boys will mean our family is somehow incomplete.
It makes me sad that people think that way.
After all, what’s wrong with having two boys!?
We are so happy that Arthur will be having a little brother. We hope that they will be buddies, that they will have adventures together, be there for each other. We are looking forward to seeing their similarities and their differences!
The main thing for us, was that we wanted our kids to be quite close in age. Being expats means that people will often come and go in our lives. We may move to other countries ourselves in the future too. So we wanted them to be close enough to always be able to play together and keep each other company.
It didn’t matter to us if it was a boy or a girl.
In the Seychelles, everyone wants to have a girl. There really is an opinion that boys are lazy. When I was pregnant with Arthur so many people said to us
So I’m surprised, in a sense, that we’ve not had more comments like this yet!
I still find it hard to get used to a culture that is SO girl biased! I’ve met plenty of Seychellois women who can not hide their disappointment at having a boy.
There really can’t be many places in the world where girls are so heavily preferred over boys!
As it’s been the Easter holidays I haven’t seen too many people since we found out we were having another boy, so I expect there will be more awkward half congratulations with a side of sympathy for us!!
I know we probably would have had comments like this wherever we were living, as having one of each, still seems, for some reason, to be the “ideal” family set up. I’m not sure that will ever change.
The advice I’m giving myself is to just smile and say we are happy. Time will tell whether or not I’ll be able to follow that the whole time I’m pregnant, there could well be a follow up post to this where I’ve snapped at someone!!!!