Arthur is 33 months old

Arthur is 33 months old.  The double three this month is a big reminder that we are on the serious countdown to Him turning 3 years old!

Arthur is 33 months old

I have loved this month with Arthur, he has been an absolute pleasure to be around.  I really can’t say enough good things about him.  He seems to have developed loads of new interests, becomes funnier every day but is still our sweet natured gorgeous little boy.

 

His speech is developing at a rapid rate which is amazing and in turn, helping to reduce tantrums a little!

 

He loves playing in Freddie’s cot, takes all his soft toys in there and ‘puts them to bed’ tucking them all in with his blanket.  He’s also started to ‘change’ them by wiping their bums (or that general area depending on the toy!) it’s super cute!!  The best bit is that he always wants Freddie in there with him!

 

Arthur plays more and more with his toys, current favourites aside from the soft toys, are his cars.  I love watching him get lost in his own little world playing!

 

He shows less interest in TV all the time, and will very rarely now watch for more than 30mins before getting bored, whereas he used to happily sit through a film!  The exception being that he’s just developed a fascination with “racing cars”, much to Mark’s delight as it means we can now have the F1 on without there being a tantrum that it’s not Peppa Pig!!  He loves to tell us the different colour cars and that “they are fixing the cars” every time a car is in the pits!  They are apparently constantly crashing too, even when they are not!!  When there is an actual crash he thinks it’s the best!  The cutest thing about this though is that he has to get his cars out at the same time and they race too!

 

Another interest that’s emerging this month is cooking!  I bake bread at least twice a week and usually cookies at least once a week and Arthur loves to help me.  I pull up a stool to the kitchen counter and he sits along side me.  He loves when I explain everything that goes into what I’m making and repeats it all back like he’s storing it to memory!  I LOVE that he’s showing an interest in cooking and it’s something I definitely plan to encourage as much as possible!

 

With Arthur getting closer and closer to going to school I needed to start focusing on getting him to wear clothes, something this little island boy is not a fan of!  My first goal is to just get him to keep some pants on!  This little island boy likes to be au natural so it’s definitely a challenge, I think this might be a whole blog post in itself soon!

 

We are now in Easter holidays and so Mark is home with us for 2.5 weeks, Arthur absolutely adores having his Daddy home and I know there will be lots of fun for us all in this time.
I am very aware that after the Easter holidays there is only half a school term left before Arthur starts going to school, at least for a couple mornings a week.  I intend to cherish every second I have with our gorgeous messy haired little guy until then!!

33 months old

 

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Arthur is 32 months old

Arthur is 32 months old.
32 months old
This month has been a busy one.  We have not only moved house, but we also had a week without Mark when he went to London to interview new teachers.

I was a little worried about how Arthur would deal with the house move this time around.  We spoke about it loads in the month leading up to it and we were lucky enough to have the key for that month so we could visit lots (and spread the move over time which helped loads!). That meant Arthur had lots of time to get used to and explore our new house.  He’s been so happy here right from the start.  He loves his new room and slept great right fro, the start.
Every morning he’s been waking up and saying “nice new house”.  It makes me so happy!!
We have also had a little sleep revalation since we’ve moved.  Arthur now sleeps, or at least is happy to stay in his room until about 7am every day!!  For anyone that knows us, or regularly reads my blog you will know what a dream that is!  Arthur has always been an early riser (like 5am early) and so for me to be able to get up have a shower and a cup of tea before he’s up has changed our whole day let alone morning!!

His later wake ups mean I’ve been getting a chance to get myself sorted and prepared for my little whirlwind when he gets up!!

I’ve also been giving him breakfast as soon as he wakes up, that’s cut out early morning TV time and asking for cookies every morning!!

I can’t express enough how much of a difference this has made to our whole day.  Everyone starts the day less grumpy and it really does set the tone for the whole day.

Not sure if it’s connected but Arthur is showing less and less interest in the TV, he does like it on but he rarely sits through anything any more.

Arthur does have time on the iPad every day.  It’s the same time every day and it’s always taken away after the same amount of time.  It’s not connected to the Internet and only has the apps allowed by us.  He is always really good when it’s time to take it off him.  There are some that will be quite judgemental of us allowing him to play on it but now he’s not napping it’s the only truly quiet time  I get during the day.  It gives me a bit of time to reset and get some stuff done and so for us it’s all good.

He is showing much more interest in his toys each day.  He plays so nicely and it’s really lovely to watch as well as jumping in and getting involved with him.

One of Arthur’s favourite games to play with me is ‘picnic’.  The best thing about this is that we use nothing to play it except our imaginations!  We sit down and munch away on whatever Arthur fancies ‘eating’ at the time, it quite often involves sweeties and chocolate cake but just as often some juice and apples (just like his real life requests!)
He also loves to sit down and read stories both with us and alone.  I love listening him to while he “reads” any of his stories it’s so cute!

I am being increasingly aware of the fact that Arthur will be starting school soon. He will be going in for the last half term of the school year, I think just for mornings and maybe only a couple days a week depending how he gets on! He will be starting properly in September. I’m trying to soak in all the moments I can with him right now. Don’t get me wrong there are times when I’m totally ready for him to, like mid tantrum; but in general I know I’ll miss him lots when he starts!!

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31 months old

Arthur is now 31 months old.

31 months old

This month has been all about getting back into routine after the Christmas holidays.

Mark is now back at work and I was worried about how we were going to get on now that Arthur is no longer taking naps.  In general, I must say I think we’ve done pretty well.  As a bonus for us Arthur is actually sleeping in a little more getting up between 6 and 7.  I think, as much as I’d love if he was still napping, we have done well with how he has transitioned to not having a nap.  In general, he gets through the day very well.

Arthur is getting better at understanding that he can have one on one time with me when Freddie is napping and is starting to be great at entertaining himself for little periods of time (without the TV!) too.  Day by day his imagination is growing and I love seeing the little things he comes up with.

While Arthur knows that while Freddie sleeps he can have me to himself, he will still often go in to see Freddie in his cot.  He is such a caring brother.  Now Freddie is having a bottle at bed time, Arthur always makes sure that we have it for him and loves seeing Freddie drinking it!

He is becoming such a little dare devil too, he wants to jump off everything, and he is an unbelievable climber!  The other day I discovered he’d climbed up to the third shelf in my wardrobe and was just sat in there!!  I’m hoping that this is going to develop into getting him to jump in the pool!  I got him to jump into the baby pool the other day and he realised that it was really fun, he did it over and over!  Being a shallow pool he didn’t go under the water!  I think I’ll work on getting him super confident with that before pushing my luck with trying to get him jumping into the big pool (with his swim jacket on of course!!)

Something else that is really amazing to see develop is his want of independence.  He now likes to go to the toilet without anyone there and will often shut the door, and one of his little games he places is saying to me “bye mummy see you later” and then wondering off somewhere (often to do something he knows he’s not allowed to do, little monkey)
He now doesn’t get really upset if I go out or if he is going somewhere without me.  It lets me know that he’s secure enough to know that I will come back or that I’m not abandoning him!!  I think it will help him when he starts school!

As much as Arthur enjoys splashing in the pool, without doubt he loves the ocean even more.  Usually he gets bored at the pool after a little while but he will never get bored of splashing in the water at the beach!   He really does turn into a little fish once hes in the water.  Nothing makes me happier than seeing how much he loves being in the water.

Arthurs speech continues to develop and get clearer every day.  He is so expressive, he really cracks us up all the time.

Every day he does something that makes me laugh, and something that makes me so incredibly proud!  Of course he does things that drive me crazy too but I couldn’t love this little guy any more!!

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I have lost the nap war

It’s official, Arthur is no longer napping during the day.  I have lost the nap war.

I have lost the nap war, how it happened and what I'm gonna do about it

I have written about previous nap battles in the past.  We’ve had struggles, but in the end I’ve always ‘won’ and nap time would continue.  Little blimps have occurred here and there but Arthur would always end up napping again.
I suppose it was always inevitable that despite him losing these battles, Arthur would always win the war.

A long time ago I remember reading somewhere that kids need to nap until they were three.  I would always remember that during times when Arthur would resist going down for a nap.  It would be my motivation to keep trying to get him to sleep.  Now Arthur is 2.5 years and I can’t help but feel like I’m missing out on an extra 6 months of nap times, I guess like all parenting advice out there, we’ve learned to take it with a pinch of salt!

 

How we knew it was time to let it go.
Arthur was always great at nap time, we could put him in his bedroom and we would know he’d be asleep within a couple of minutes.
Over the last few months it’s been taking him longer and longer to go down for a nap.
I initially put his nap time back by an hour and this did help for a short while.  Even then it was not long before he started taking ages to go down, I’m talking over an hour.

When he would eventually go to sleep, I’d give him his couple hours and then go and wake him up.  He’d then be in an unbelievably bad mood.  This wasn’t too bad when we could snap him out of it within 20 mins or so.  The problem came when it started taking him around an hour to get out of a serious grump.
When I’m talking about a grump, I don’t just mean in a bit of a bad mood – I can relate to being in a bit of a bad mood when I get up.  I mean a foul horrible mega tantrum filled mood.

We tried a few different ways to try and solve these issues.  Waking him up nice and slowly with lots of cuddles.  Waking him up quickly and leaving him to it.  Pretty much everything in between.
We tried shortening his nap.  We tried running him ragged until he without doubt definitely needed a sleep.

In the end when it was generally taking more than an hour for him to go to sleep and then around the same time to get him back to his usual happy self.  We decided that it wasn’t worth the upset for us all. We would try and struggle through and see how we go.

You might think that I’ve given up to soon, with this.  Believe me that’s not the case, I am going to seriously miss Arthur’s nap time.  Those two hours were my time; to do some blogging, to eat my lunch in peace, to do nothing in particular!
It’s been Christmas holiday’s and Its been really nice having Mark home but I’m honestly a little worried about how I will cope when he goes back to school.

Obviously there’s Freddie to entertain too and I feel bad that he now won’t be getting any solo time with me.

 

What we are gonna do about it

So looking forward, my plan is to try and ensure that I’ve got lots of activities planned for Arthur, to keep him from being bored, because if there’s one thing that’s worse than a tired toddler, it’s a tired and bored toddler!!
It would be easy for me to just stick the TV on but I’m trying to limit that!  Don’t get me wrong, I’m in no way frowning on TV, I’m not sure how I’d get through the day without it at all but I know we function better when there’s some structure to TV time (Arthur knows when he can have it and when he can’t and so it limits whining!)
I am also going to test out some “down time” for Arthur where he’s in his bedroom without sleeping, if anyone has any tips for this please let me know!!

Arthur will be starting at school, in June.  It will be a blink of an eye until he’s there.  I will do my best to remind myself of this on the tougher days and try to enjoy every second with my little guy!

In just a couple of weeks we have already noticed Arthur’s night time sleep adjusting.  He has always been a really early riser, getting up around 5am ish. 6 would be a mega lie in for us!  However, we are now getting 6am as the normal and have even had some 7-7:30am wake ups.  This is a definite bonus of losing nap time!  There have been a couple times, when we’ve had really busy days that Arthur has crashed out on the sofa or fallen asleep in the car.  Not for any considerable amount of time and he doesn’t seem to be quite as grumpy when waking up from these.

 

Have you lost the nap war yet, or are you still living the nap time dream with your little ones?
Any tips on quiet time/down time for toddlers I’d love to hear them!

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Arthur is 30 months old

As is becoming the normal for me these days, this post is a little late!  
At least this month I’ve had Christmas as an excuse!  So anyway, Arthur is 30 months old,  2.5 years.  Crazy.

30 months old

For most of this month, we’ve had Mark home with us.  Arthur has absolutely loved it.  Every time Mark is off work, Arthur and him get a little closer, it’s always so lovely to watch.  Daddy is definitely big favourite right now!!  

30 months old.  Arthur and daddy

We’ve had so much lovely family time together with trips to the vallee de Mai, going to the pool and lots of trips to the beach.

Right at the end of term before Mark finished for Christmas, Arthur was starting to get very restless.  We were fighting nap times, more on that in another post!  He was also quite often acting up to get attention.  It was tough, we all needed the Christmas holidays!  Once Mark was home, Arthur’s behaviour improved massively.  I have put it down to Arthur needing more stimulation.  I’ve given myself quite a hard time over it all, but I have to be realistic, with Freddie still being so small I can’t give Arthur all of the stimulation he needs all the time.  It’s times like these where I wish we had clubs or classes for little kids here, or even an indoor soft play place!
 *i can feel all you uk mamas cringing at the mention of soft play, but you have to admit it’s a great way for kids to burn off all that energy in a confined area!!!*  
I think once Freddie is able to sit up by himself I will be able to take them both to the beach to run around but right now it’s just not really do-able! 

I think Arthur’s “bad behaviour” has also been about testing limits, all normal for a toddler I’m sure.  It’s frustrating for me when I know he knows he’s not supposed to do something but he goes and does it anyway.   When he does he’s watching me the whole time to see how I react.  It’s difficult to remain consistent ALL the time, particularly if I’m feeding Freddie at the time but I’m trying my best!  It’s been much easier with having Mark home!

Apart from our cheeky monkey testing his limits (i’ll use that phrase as opposed to “being a little shit” which is the phrase I have been using of late!) Arthur continues to be so loving and so funny.  He is still so so gorgeous with Freddie which I can’t get enough of. He loves making Freddie smile and laugh and loves to give him cuddles and kisses.
His smile can turn my mood around in an instant – I think he knows that too!!

Arthur’s speech is getting so good, we can’t believe how much it’s come on!

Obviously this month there has been lots of build up to Christmas.  We did our decorating right at the start of December so as to help build the excitement for Arthur (and us obviously!).  It was really amazing to see Arthur beginning to grasp the idea of Christmas, although he definitely still did not totally get it!  He has loved our Christmas tree and all the decorations, he also loved leaving a mince pie out for Father Christmas on Christmas Eve.  
I think he found Christmas Day pretty overwhelming.  On reflection it’s quite intense!  He loved seeing all the presents under the tree but didn’t quite get that they were to be opened, we then had presents to open with our parents on Skype which is quite a lot for him to deal with.  At the end of the day he enjoyed going back to things and checking our all his new toys on his own terms!!  

We are now 100% nappy free for Arthur, even at night time.  I am so proud of how well he has done, it really is quite amazing!  I wrote a post on our potty training journey and shared a few tips if you want to check it out! 

What Arthur is loving this month

In perfect timing, for the festive season, Arthur’s current favourite movie is….. Hotel Transylvania *typical Arthur to go against the grain!*  

I actually think this movie is pretty good too, I’m looking forward to getting the second one for him to watch too!

Arthur is really starting to get into his Duplo, he has a few different sets now; a little airport, a pirate island and a little farm.  

Climbing.  This boy is amazing at climbing.  His most recent obsession is climbing on top of our car.  Right up on the roof.  Pretty dangerous, but also pretty impressive!!! I snapped this picture quickly before I had to tell him off for getting up on the car, again, hence the rubbish quality of the pic! Isn’t it so hard to tell him off when he does things like this because I find it so funny!
30 months old.  Climbing on the car

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Potty training at 2: our story and tips

We started potty training Arthur when he was 23 months old.  It wasn’t really planned but Arthur had been going without a nappy for a couple days around the house.  He’d been poorly and a rash had accompanied it so he didn’t want anything on him.

 Potty training at 2: our story and tips 
Here that was not really too much of a problem, it’s nice and warm so didn’t have to worry about him being cold, he generally would just wear a nappy around the house anyway.  Also all our floors our tiled so any messes were easy to clean up!

So after not very long Arthur very quickly started being aware of what was going on and telling me when he’d done a wee.  In no time he started to tell me that when he was going.   It got me thinking that maybe he was ready to start potty training.

After a couple of days his rash was better so I put nappies back on again most of the time but did give him nappy free time throughout the day to keep up his awareness!

I didn’t want to rush him.  We were in no particular hurry to potty train him.  My parents were coming out and mum said she’d bring a potty out for him.  She got him this one

and also the matching toilet training seat

We didn’t make a big deal about the potty while mum and dad were here.  We wanted to focus on having a good time with them.  However we did show him it and told him that’s where he can use the toilet.
He told me he needed a wee one day so I sat him on there and he did it on the potty.  We all made a huge fuss and we were all super excited.
The next day he went and found the potty on his own and did a wee! We couldn’t believe it!

As we were in no particular rush we didn’t want to push anything so we kept the potty just for in the house, he wore his nappies while we were out of the house.  In a couple of days he was using his potty all the time in the house.  We kept the nappy on for nap and bed time.

We carried on this way for a while, I was very pregnant and had read that there can be regression when a new baby comes along so didn’t want to push our luck!
So we left it this way until after Freddie arrived.

When my mum and dad came back out in September they said we should bite the bullet and try to go out the house with no nappies.  Arthur had not had any regression at all and so we decided to do it.  We took the potty out with us but would always leave at the car.  we asked if he needed the potty a lot when we arrived anywhere and then before we would get back in the car.

I noticed that Arthur’s nappies at nap time were dry most of the time, when he started fussing about not wanting a nappy on at nap time I let him go without.  It’s been over 2 months now and we’ve only had two nap time accidents.

We had tried a couple of times to get Arthur to use the toilet as opposed to the potty (mainly so we didn’t have to take the potty out with us everywhere we went!) but he wasn’t keen.  Then one day about a month ago I showed him again the little seat that went on the toilet.  I said how it was the same as his potty, he seemed happy with that and off he went and from then on he was more than happy to use the toilet.  Within a few weeks he was preferring to go without the seat and now just uses the toilet normally.

This weekend we decided to go for it at night time too, Arthur’s nappies were mostly dry and there would be days where he would take his nappy off in the morning to use the potty which we now keep in his room.  We always make sure he goes for a wee right before he gets into bed.  He’s done fantastically well so far, we had one little accident.

So, there we have it.  A rather long potty training tale, but one that has been stress free and very positive.   we are so proud of our little guy and we are so pleased we never rushed or forced any of it!

STRESS FREE POTTY TRAINING AT 2: MY TIPS
 

Potty training at 2 tips 

     
    Help establish if your kid is ready by letting them run round naked for a couple of days, being able to see what they are doing may help to recognise the feeling of needing to go beforehand so they can tell you.

      When you start out don’t worry about pants, it’s an extra thing for your kid to focus on that can be added later.

        Celebrate success!!!

          Break it down in to stages: day time at home, out and about near by, nap times, night times.  This keeps it easy to tackle for you and them!

            Don’t add any pressure, there’s no rush!

              use a potty and toilet training seat that look similar, or the same. this helped us hugely making the leap from potty to the toilet. if you want the same as we got you can buy them here: IKEA LOCKIG – Children-s potty, green white, green
              IKEA TOSSIG CHILD TRAINING TOILET SEAT

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              Arthur is 28 months

              Arthur is 28 months old

              Arthur is now 28 months old. It kinda dawned on me this month that Arthur really is 2 now, I know that probably sounds a bit weird seeing as his birthday is in June and it’s now almost November, but he is no longer “only just 2” he’s well and truly 2!

              We are well into the depths of “the terrible 2’s” too, this boy can throw an epic tantrum! We’ve started seeing him throw himself to the floor at times, make himself ridiculously hard to pick up and lots of yelling. It can be really hard work!! I mostly feel sorry for him at these times as I can see just how frustrated he is over things. I have definitely found myself losing my temper with him too though, which then quickly turns to lots of guilt. I hate getting cross with him, I don’t ever want to tum into that shouty mummy.

              For this next month we are going to try to start implementing the naughty step. Im hoping it might help us all deal with things a little bit better!! I’ll be sure to update next month how we get on with that, wish us luck!

              On the total flip of the coin Arthur is mostly a really happy boy, he makes us laugh so much and he continues to be so so loving.

              He LOVES to sing and dance, mostly to Peppa pig and Thomas the tank engine!! It’s so cute and always brings a smile to our faces!! Even if he’s in a tantrum if a song comes on he likes he will stop to sing and dance along, it’s very funny!

              Arthur also loves story time! He loves to join in when Mark and I read to him, especially with the Gruffalo and Stick Man.

              He is so affectionate to Freddie, I had wondered if the novelty would ware off a little once Mark went back to work and routine started but it hasn’t at all. Freddie has got to be one of his most used words right now!!

              Speaking of words, Arthur’s speech continues to develop lots and lots! I think all the singing is helping him with his sentence forming! He is really starting to get the idea of putting words together now, so we are really proud of him for that!

              We continue to be impressed with Arthur’s potty training. We have in fact moved from the potty to the toilet. He’s still wearing his nappy at night time as a just in case, but more often then not that is dry too. I’m not in a rush to stop this as he sleeps so well I am worried about disturbing that but I guess we need to bite the bullet with that at some point!

              Arthur’s favourite things this month!

              I thought id start a new section of these monthly updates where I share some of Arthur’s current favourite things, it changes so frequently and so I figured it would be nice to look back on this!!

              Arthur is really enjoying playing with his wooden train set, we have just a small figure of eight one for now. He loves making up the rails himself and pushing the trains along. I had been trying to get him to play with this for ages and all of a sudden he has started showing an interest in it. I think it has developed from his love of Thomas the Tank Engine and him starting to understand what trains are, because of course we don’t have them here to show him!

              His current favourite stories to read during the day time are
              I need a wee by Sue Hendra

              This book is so cute and funny, Arthur is all about the toilet right now, seeing as he’s a little potty trained pro and so this book is perfect!!

              and One by One by Judy Hindley

              Arthur loves counting so it’s no surprise he loves that one. He can count to ten already, I think it comes from us counting anything and everything together!!

              His favourite thing to watch is Inside Out. This movie is so so cute and I love watching it too, everyone wins!

              Of course Arthur is still loving our little puppy Koopa they play together lots and now we have started taking Koopa for walks Arthur gets to run around with him on the beach too!!

              Arthur is also loving brushing his teeth right now! He plays a little app on the iPad where you have to brush the monsters teeth which has I think demonstrated to him really clearly the brushing action!! I’m pretty sure the Peppa Pig toothpaste helps too!!! This is something that I hope he continues to enjoy, we went through teeth brushing battles in the past so I am loving that he’s into this right now!

              Think thats all for now! As always, I will be back with another Arthur update next month!

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