Arthur and Freddie March 2017

Arthur and Freddie March 2017

It has been far too long since I’ve written a post about Arthur and Freddie.

I have no idea why I stopped doing their monthly updates because I absolutely loved it.  At the start of the year I promised myself that I would start writing them again.  Its now March and I haven’t done so.

However, I’m changing that today!  So here is a little post about Arthur and Freddie, as they are, right now!!

 

Arthur, aged 3years and 8months

Arthur: March 2017

This boy, is unbelievable right now.  I can not explain how proud I am of Arthur at the moment.  The thing that makes me most proud of Arthur right now has to be his manners.  He ALWAYS remembers his please and thank you’s and I love that.

He is always so happy to help whenever he can, and even when he can’t he’s right there wanting to!  He’s definitely is ready to start getting involved with some projects at home

We are working on building up his attention span because it can be pretty short.  We are getting some great support from school with this.

Arthur’s speech has come on immeasurably since he started school, every day he surprises me with something new.  I’m not exaggerating when I say that there has been real progress on a weekly basis.  His teacher and all our friends and family have noticed it and it is a big relief.  Its been something I have chosen not to speak about on here but it has been a big worry for us all.  There is still progress to be made but we are all delighted with the progress he has made so far!!

Arthur is building some lovely friendships at the moment and its so nice to see.  There are a couple of kids in his class who he is particularly fond of and he is so happy to see them every morning.  He is also so lucky to have the friendships of all mine and Mark’s friends too, they love him and look out for him so much.  Our ‘expat family’ is something I am eternally grateful for being so far away from our own!

A huge thing for Arthur in this last month is that he has all of a sudden turned into a full on fish!  He has ALWAYS loved the water but now, not only is he going underwater, he is actually starting to swim too! All by himself, he decided he was ready!

Arthur swimming at 3.5years old

Freddie aged 19 months

Freddie: March 2017

Where to start with Freddie!!!  He is honestly hilarious. I can’t believe how much he genuinely cracks me up on a daily basis.

At 19 months he is pretty sure he can do everything his brother can and theres not a lot thats going to stop him!  He is fearless, and oh so determined.  Freddie’s so happy every day when we get Arthur from school, although dragging him away when we drop him off in the morning is becoming a challenge – he loves going into class with ‘the big kids’.

This month Freddie was sick for almost a week.  He had a horrible fever, that seemed to spike in the afternoon. Also, he was eating very little the whole time.  I think I worried about this more than normal as when he had his 18month injection he hadn’t really gained any weight.  Now, rational me knows that they go through phases of this.  But, panic-y worrying about being judged by everyone me went into a bit of a meltdown over this!  He is eating again now, although he is becoming really picky which is SO annoying!!

We can’t get over how stroppy he can be.  I know time puts rose tinted glasses on things but I am sure he throws bigger, and much longer tantrums then Arthur did at this age.  Another sign of just how strong willed Freddie is.

My favourite thing about Freddie right now is how, when he’s tired, he comes and lies down over his legs or plops himself onto the bed or any soft object around.  Then he wants me to tickle his back.  Its so cute, he goes all super cuddly and lovely!

Freddie is starting to pick up quite a few words.  ‘No’ is a definite favourite.  He says Mummy a lot and also, ‘fish’ ‘shark’ and ‘whale’ in true island boy fashion!

 

Together

Arthur & Freddie March 2017

Together, Arthur and Freddie are becoming a real team.  They still love to be in each others company and mostly wants the other to be involved with whatever they are doing.  I’m starting to notice that if one is upset and having a cuddle with me, the other is all of a sudden upset and wants the same too.   Freddie is really copying things Arthur is doing, and saying too.

Arthur really looks out for Freddie.  The other day we had an interesting incident where Arthur pushed Freddie but it was because he was getting him away from the oven (not on) that he was trying to touch.  We were really happy that Arthur was protecting Freddie but had to at the same time tell him that he shouldn’t have pushed him!

 

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31 months old

Arthur is now 31 months old.

31 months old

This month has been all about getting back into routine after the Christmas holidays.

Mark is now back at work and I was worried about how we were going to get on now that Arthur is no longer taking naps.  In general, I must say I think we’ve done pretty well.  As a bonus for us Arthur is actually sleeping in a little more getting up between 6 and 7.  I think, as much as I’d love if he was still napping, we have done well with how he has transitioned to not having a nap.  In general, he gets through the day very well.

Arthur is getting better at understanding that he can have one on one time with me when Freddie is napping and is starting to be great at entertaining himself for little periods of time (without the TV!) too.  Day by day his imagination is growing and I love seeing the little things he comes up with.

While Arthur knows that while Freddie sleeps he can have me to himself, he will still often go in to see Freddie in his cot.  He is such a caring brother.  Now Freddie is having a bottle at bed time, Arthur always makes sure that we have it for him and loves seeing Freddie drinking it!

He is becoming such a little dare devil too, he wants to jump off everything, and he is an unbelievable climber!  The other day I discovered he’d climbed up to the third shelf in my wardrobe and was just sat in there!!  I’m hoping that this is going to develop into getting him to jump in the pool!  I got him to jump into the baby pool the other day and he realised that it was really fun, he did it over and over!  Being a shallow pool he didn’t go under the water!  I think I’ll work on getting him super confident with that before pushing my luck with trying to get him jumping into the big pool (with his swim jacket on of course!!)

Something else that is really amazing to see develop is his want of independence.  He now likes to go to the toilet without anyone there and will often shut the door, and one of his little games he places is saying to me “bye mummy see you later” and then wondering off somewhere (often to do something he knows he’s not allowed to do, little monkey)
He now doesn’t get really upset if I go out or if he is going somewhere without me.  It lets me know that he’s secure enough to know that I will come back or that I’m not abandoning him!!  I think it will help him when he starts school!

As much as Arthur enjoys splashing in the pool, without doubt he loves the ocean even more.  Usually he gets bored at the pool after a little while but he will never get bored of splashing in the water at the beach!   He really does turn into a little fish once hes in the water.  Nothing makes me happier than seeing how much he loves being in the water.

Arthurs speech continues to develop and get clearer every day.  He is so expressive, he really cracks us up all the time.

Every day he does something that makes me laugh, and something that makes me so incredibly proud!  Of course he does things that drive me crazy too but I couldn’t love this little guy any more!!

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Freddie’s first swim

This is a little late in coming, but here is a little about Freddie’s first swim!  We took Arthur swimming for the first time when he was 6 weeks old, so Freddie followed in his big brothers footsteps and went at 6 weeks too!!

Of course we don’t have any indoor swimming pools or anything here so Freddie’s first swim, like Arthur’s, was in an outdoor pool at a hotel.

It wasn’t at the same pool as Arthur’s first swim but this place is the closest to where we live now, it takes us all of about 2 minutes to walk there!  We go at least once a week.  We usually get a couple of drinks, this place does great milkshakes and iced coffees!  Quite often on a Friday Mark will call me as he’s leaving work to say lets go to the pool!  A perfect way to start the weekend and a definite plus of expat life in the Seychelles.So heres Freddie’s first swim!  His very very first impressions were not all that great!!

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Arthur was delighted that Freddie was in the pool swimming with him!

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He was very quick to reassure him that swimming was actually great fun!!

P1050034 Within a minute Freddie realised that swimming was actually pretty great and really enjoyed it!!  Our boys were clearly born to be in the water!

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Freddie definitely was loving the water and that made this mama very proud and happy.  Honestly, quite relieved too….it would be pretty tough if we had a baby that didn’t like being in the water living here!

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We managed to squeeze in for a family selfie.  As what I think will become the normal now with two kids, it’s not a ‘perfect’ family shot but I love it all the same….if only I had my glasses on to hide those giant suitcases under my eyes!!!

Freddie's first swim Family selfie Seychelles

After about 20 minutes we got Freddie out, while he was still happy!  I think he would have stayed in longer but we didn’t want to push our luck after such a successful first swim for our little fish!

In true island style Freddie dried off enjoying the late afternoon sun!  Perfection.

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Freddie's first swim
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Freddie Ocean is 2 months old

Freddie Ocean is 2 months old!

Freddie Ocean is 2 months old

This month, Freddie had his 6 week check up at the doctors.  I was told he was very strong and that he will be tall (not taking after me then!!!)

He weighed 4.695kg which means he had gained 1.6kg!  So nice to see he’s thriving on my milk!
Interestingly, the doctor, who was Cuban, told me that she thought he looked “a little jaundice”.  I was pretty confused, he hadn’t been jaundice in hospital and to me his skin tone hadn’t changed.   She said she wanted me to take Freddie out in the sun in the mornings and to come back to see if that has helped.  By the end of the check up she looked at me and said “actually, he might be ok, you are a little bit yellow too!”

Yeah, thanks for that lady, just call me Marge!

So, I decided to take no notice after reassurance from friends and family that Freddie wasn’t jaundice!!
Freddie is becoming super smiley, it’s so lovely to see.  He really is such a happy baby.   He’s so chilled out too, still very happy to be held by anyone, he definitely loves cuddles!  Thankfully, he’s happier being put down too which is making it a little easier round the house!

Freddie Ocean is 2 months old.  Smiley baby

He is generally sleeping so well.  He tends to wake up 1-2 times at night, that is something I could have only dreamed of when Arthur was that age. I’m also absolutely loving that most days I’m having time when both Freddie and Arthur are napping, meaning I get some real ‘me time’ long may that continue!

We have had a couple times where he’s struggled to get off to sleep in the evening but it’s just been a few random times!

Freddie had a pretty special ‘island baby first’ this month!  When Freddie turned 6 weeks old we took him swimming just like we did when Arthur was 6 weeks old!

Freddie Ocean first swim at 6 weeks old

He took to the water straight away, just like his big brother did in true island baby style!
Not surprisingly he is now also really enjoying bath time, he used to not like it at all! I’m very relieved because it would be no fun living here if you don’t like the water!!

I’ll be back next month with another update for our little island baby!

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Pregnancy fitness questions answered by Dr Joanna Helcké

As part of my review for the Dr Joanna Helcké pregnancy fitness programme I was given the chance to ask Jo some pregnancy fitness questions.

It was great to be able to ask Jo questions and get answers from a real expert!  I thought I’d share the answers as I’m sure there are some who have wondered the same thing!  Hope you find them as useful as I did!

Does having had a C-section in the past affect how I should exercise when pregnant second time round? And is there anything I can do to prepare myself for a second caesarean section?

Having previously had a caesarean section won’t require you to modify your antenatal exercise regime per se. However, what it does mean is that you have insight into what it feels like having to both heal after what is effectively major abdominal surgery all whilst looking after a tiny baby. Add a toddler into the mix and things will be even harder.
With this in mind I would be thinking back to those early postnatal days and weeks last time round to remember what felt really tough and then seeing whether you could incorporate certain exercises into your current fitness regime which will “proof”your body and help you through a second round of healing.
Keeping the body generally strong throughout pregnancy is bound to help with recovery. Pregnancy affects posture, of course, but after a C-section the pain caused by the incision is liable to also affect the way you stand – it is only natural to hunch the shoulders forwards when experiencing pain. So working on keeping the back muscles strong in pregnancy will also help when recovering from a C-section.
In the early weeks you will need to take things very gently and your stamina will, no doubt, be adversely affected – that’s when a flight of stairs feels like a mountain! So maintaining a reasonable level of cardiovascular fitness right up to the end of pregnancy – think swimming and power walking – will help tide you over the healing period and hopefully you’ll be able to bounce back more quickly when the time is right.
Last but not least, although having a caesarean means that the pelvic floor muscles (PFM) don’t undergo the trauma of a natural delivery I’d definitely encourage you to get used to doing pelvic floor exercises correctly and through a full range of movement. What I mean by this is that you need to not only be able to draw up on your PFMs but also relax them fully. Once you’ve had your C section you can start up with the PFEs immediately and this encourage the flow of blood to the area, thus helping with healing.
I live in a tropical climate: should this have an effect on exercise in pregnancy?  

General advice is that it isn’t a good idea to get overly hot when pregnant as this can, according to some research, have an adverse impact on your growing baby. If you’ve been living in the Seychelles for many years then perhaps you have acclimatised and don’t find yourself getting quite so hot in the tropical weather there..? Or perhaps it still feels pretty hot and sticky to you (I spent all my childhood in Italy but I never got used to the boiling temperatures and high humidity in August!). Either way, I’d bear this in mind when exercising: don’t overheat, make sure you drive lots of fluids and don’t do your workouts in the full sun. Think cool shade or when outdoors stick to swimming – the water will help take away excess heat from your body.
What is your most recommended exercise for pregnancy?

OK, well I am a great one for believing that there is no such thing as a one size fits all approach. So instead of telling you about the wonders of swimming, aquanatal, pregnancy Pilates (which is what I specialise in), walking or pregnancy yoga, I’d rather say to you that you should do what you genuinely enjoy and what makes you feel HAPPY. All those types of exercise are, indeed, really great options in pregnancy but that doesn’t necessarily mean that everything else is out of bounds.

Pregnancy fitness questioned answered by Dr Joanna Helcké

Aquanatal fitness. Photo credit: www.joannahelcke.com

Now I’m going to add a few caveats to that, the first one being that you should always listen to your body. So if, for example, running has always been your passion and if jogging during pregnancy leaves you feeling energised, positive and niggle-free, then by all means, make that your exercise of choice. But if, on the other hand, you find that you are forcing yourself to carry on (perhaps for fear of losing your fitness levels) then you are doing the wrong thing. You need to stop and do something else that suits.
So, in short, although my gut instinct is to tell you that pregnancy Pilates is particularly beneficial for a whole host of reasons (back pain, posture, keeping the abdominals toned…) I also feel that on condition that you listen to your body with honesty, then there are many other options that will keep you feeling happy, healthy and fit.
Pregnancy fitness questions answered by Dr Joanna Helcké

 

Are there any pregnancy exercise myths you’d like to dispel?

Oh my goodness, where shall I start?
-That “moderate exercise” means the same thing for all woman – of course it doesn’t! We all have our individual baseline fitness from which we should measure “moderate”.
-That weight training is somehow dangerous to perform in pregnancy. If you have excellent technique and were already lifting prior to pregnancy then by all means, carry on!
-That the pelvic floor muscles are best worked in isolation. Nope! Recent research by Dr Bruce Crawford (of the Pfilates technique) highlights that the pelvic floor actually works much more effectively if contracted alongside certain movements such as squats, cat stretches and lunges.
-That yoga is THE ultimate exercise to do in pregnancy. No it isn’t. There are lots of forms of exercise which are equally excellent for pregnancy and which all provide their own unique benefits. Yoga is great for posture, breathing for labour and relaxation; walking is fantastic for stamina; Pilates is amazing for back pain and rehabilitating the post-pregnancy tummy muscles; and swimming is a total godsend in the last trimester.
Do you want me to carry on….?!

Dr Joanna Helcke is an expert in pregnancy and postnatal fitness, winner of the UK’s most prestigious fitness award – the 2014 FitPro Award for Excellence in Fitness – and creator of the UK’s first week by week online pregnancy and new mum Pilates programme. www.joannahelcke.com

Pregnancy fitness questions answered by Dr Joanna Helcké

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Thanks Jo for answering my questions!

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Just the two of us {The Ordinary Moments 15} #7

On Tuesday Mark left to go to London to do some interviews for new teachers at the school.

This ment that Arthur and I would be by ourselves for 5 nights!

Now this might now seem like a big deal for many, after all a partner working away is not all that uncommon!  However, for us, this was the first time!
Since Arthur has been born I think Mark has been away for 1 night.  That’s it!  So 5 nights for us has been a pretty big deal!

I’ve been very anxious about it on the lead up to it!
It’s now Sunday morning, Mark is home in a few hours and if I do say so myself, we have done pretty good!!

Arthur and I have been swimming every day, both at the pool and at the beach!  He is such a water baby, he goes absolutely crazy, I love it!  I need to start taking the camera when we go swimming again and capture some of those moments! It’s been nice just to enjoy them first hand though and not worry about any of that stuff!!!

I have to say though, it’s been exhausting and I’ve really missed my team mate!!  Thursday in particular was really rough, Arthur was in an awful awful mood ALL day.
He threw tantrums left right and centre!
Looking back now though they are already kinda funny….
We went to the shop and they had strawberries (a special treat here) so I bought them for Arthur as he loves them.
We get home and I cut some up for him.  He went to the fridge to say he wanted a snack and when I gave him the strawberries he FREAKED out (because they hadn’t come from the fridge what a diva!!) I then made the mistake of trying to give him a drink…..
My lovely next door neighbours came to the back door to check all was ok and to give me a break.  Arthur saw them and their cat Smudge and was instantly all smiles and laughing.  So yeah, that felt good 🙁

Throughout the week we took silly selfies for Daddy, something we should do more!
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We’ve also had lots of snuggles, he’s been extra snuggley and loves to give cuddles to baby bump too!!

My friends have been amazing in making sure I’ve not felt isolated or too lonely I can’t thank them enough for that!

So it’s almost time for Mark to be home! Arthur and I are very excited! We’ve had a fun week just the two of us but I’m excited to get back to our family of three (plus bump of course!)

 

 

 

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