Hospital Diary part 1

I wrote a little diary while I was in hospital having Freddie, so I thought I’d share it on the blog!!

I’ll start off with part one, my admission into hospital the day before my Caesarian.
Seychellesmama hospital diary part 1
Hospital Diary part 1:
10/08/15
This morning at 10am I came to hospital for admission.
The maternity ward has been moved up a floor since when I had Arthur.  It’s not perfect by any means but it’s a lot better.  There is air con, and the walls are A LOT fresher.

I was taken to a little room with Mark and had the monitor strapped to me for around half an hour.   The view from the window was lovely, we were looking right out onto the botanical gardens!
Mahe botanical gardens, view from admission room Victoria hospital
The nurse didn’t really look at the graph when it was finished, anyway it was pretty unreadable as the machine was pretty much just chewing up the paper!!
I was asked a few questions about my health and then came the question on religion!  I said I had none, the nurse seemed ok with this but then pointed at me and said “but you believe in God right!?”  Cue me feeling very awkward “ummmm no……sorry”  He didn’t say anything.  We’ve been here before, everyone is religious in the Seychelles, mostly catholic, and no one can understand that we are not.
The nurse disappeared off for a little while and I was then taken to what I can only describe as a waiting room for women waiting to have their babies.
I remember how bored I was last time on this day when I had Arthur.
I’m sure it’s dragged even more this time, I passed the time by doing a cross stitch I’ve been meaning to do forever!  My plan was that I would really make the most of this time alone and prep lots of blog posts (no internet!!) as its a rarity and soon it will be even more so, but I’m feeling nervous and anxious and not very motivated to do anything.  Writing this is helping my nerves though!

Last time I was in a room by myself all day, this time the room has been full on and off all day.  There’s three other women who have been here since I have and two other women have come and gone, not sure where they certainly weren’t in final stages of labour and weren’t prepped for surgery or anything!
I remember that it was hot in the room last time but I am so relieved there is air con now!!   There’s no nice view in this room, we are looking out on the back of the building and onto another hospital building, the space between the two frankly looks like a bit of a dumping ground!
I’ve been told I can eat and drink until midnight.  I’ve also been told that the anaesthetist will be round to see me at some point this evening.
Mark, his Mum and Arthur came to visit for a couple hours this afternoon.  Apparently Arthur had been as good as gold all day but it was lovely to see how excited he was to see me when he got here!   We gave him his Pirate Pete I’m a new big brother
book to read while I’m in hospital! He read it at bed time with daddy and loved it.
The rest of the day was very dull!  I was told the  anaesthetist would come and see me at some point, that never happened!
Midwives came to do their last checks at about 11 so got to sleep sometime after that.  My sleep, unsurprisingly was very broken after all the next day I’d be having our second baby!!!

I’ve had a lot of pregnancy ‘guilt’ this time around, fueled entirely by my worry for how Arthur would cope, firstly being away from me for a few days which he never has been before and secondly how he would deal with the huge change becoming a brother would entail.

I realise that it sounds sort of ridiculous to worry so much about how Arthur will ‘cope’ without me. I’ll be honest, I think it’s just as much a sadness for me to be away from him!!

Soon I’ll share my hospital diary part 2 aka Freddie’s birth story!!

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Freddie Ocean

Meet Freddie Ocean!

Freddie Ocean

He arrived safe and sound at 3.1kg on 11th August 2015 by Caesarian Section, all went as planned!  I’ll write another post about our experience in hospital another time!

This teeny boy has made a big change to our little family.
Freddie Ocean
We are now officially a family of 4 and it feels amazing!

Mummy Daddy Arthur and Freddie Ocean

We were discharged from hospital on Friday 14th and we took a flight back to Praslin the same day, so Freddie had his first flight at just 3 days old!

Right from the start Arthur has been absolutely besotted with him.
Brothers Arthur and Freddie Ocean

He is constantly giving him kisses!  He’s starting to say Freddie quite clearly but I still think it’s a bit more “shreddie” then Freddie!!
I think they are going to be the best of friends!
Arthur and Freddie! Brothers and best friends!

We are now settling in back home and loving figuring out new routines and adjusting old ones!
Arthur helps us with Freddie’s bath before having his shower and the four of us all cuddle up in Arthur’s room for bed time stories!

Brothers Arthur and Freddie Ocean bed time stories

Arthur always makes sure that he kisses Freddie goodnight before he goes to sleep!

Yesterday Freddie turned 1 week old (already!!) and so we took him to the beach for the first time, just like we did with Arthur!  As we were back on Praslin we got to take him to our favourite beach, Anse Lazio!  It quickly became clear that we would not get the ‘perfect’ posed family photo but I love these ones so much all the same!!
Freddie's first trip to the beach 1 week old Anse Lazio family photo

Freddie Ocean first trip to the beach 1 week old Anse Lazio

Freddie Ocean 1 week old Anse Lazio family beach shot

 

I was so so worried about how Arthur would be affected by Freddie’s arrival, wondered if he would be jealous, if he would accept his little brother, if he would be upset by the change.  I could not be prouder of how amazing he has been.  How accepting.  How much he has absolutely embraced Freddie into our family!  This morning we came downstairs and Freddie was still asleep so we left him for a little while before getting him up.  Arthur was looking everywhere for him saying “Bwana Bwana” (his word for brother!!!) and was so happy when we brought him downstairs!

It already feels like Freddie has always been with us!  I can’t believe how much I worried about how we would adjust as a family of 4!  Freddie has fit right in and we all love him so so much!!

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37 weeks pregnant

I’m 37 weeks pregnant, that means I’m officially full term which is really exciting!!  If you missed my 36 week update be sure to check it out!

Weight 67.7 kg (that’s +1.1kg in one week eeek!!)

Here’s me this week

37 weeks pregnant bump shot

I’ve had my final midwife appointment on Praslin this week, all went fine.  I will have one final check up near to where we are staying on Mahe and then that will be it before I check in to hospital to meet baby boy!!

With going to Mahe this Sunday I think this may be my last bump update!!  I’m not so sure of our internet access there, if I can get one in next week then of course I will!  If not I’ll probably still write it and publish it when we get back to Praslin.  That will definitely be weird since we will have our little guy by then but it will be nice to look back on it later on!!

Bags are partly packed to go now, I’ve not packed anything for myself yet though!!   This week is rolling through so fast, I feel like I’ve got more time then I really do!!
We are going to get all toiletries for baby and me on Mahe so it’s one less thing to fly over with! But, as usual it’s pretty much been left to a last minute thing!!!

I am ridiculously uncomfortable most of the time now, and my energy is totally zapped!  I don’t know how I’d be coping if mark wasn’t home right now!!

Sleep is continuing to be really broken which is not ideal but I guess it’s preparing me for night feeds!!

I’ve had some really painful Braxton hicks contractions where they’ve literally stopped me in my path.  I never had anything like this with Arthur, I guess because he was breach where this little guy is head down so there’s more pressure!?
Anyway I try to remain calm when it happens, but I’m not gonna lie, I freak out a little each time!!

Arthur has been giving loads of kisses and cuddles to my tummy mostly accompanied with “ahhhhh baby” which is so cute!
He’s also been saying “touch” as in touch the baby because we’ve been telling him that the baby will be here soon and showing him where he will sleep and all the little clothes!!

So, here’s this week’s countdown to our Caesarian and meeting baby boy!!
37 weeks pregnant!  Countdown to Caesarian section

It’s actually closer to one week now, we are so excited!!

So, hopefully I can do one last bump update next week if not I’ll be back…..with a baby!!!

 

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36 weeks pregnant

I’m 36 weeks pregnant!  If you missed last week take a look at my 35 week update

 

Measurements

Weight: 66kg (eeek well and truly over the 10 stone mark now!!)

Fundal measurement: ooops forgot this one!
Estimated baby weight from scan: 2.4kg

Here’s me this week

36 weeks pregnant bump shot
Hurrah, Mark has finished work!!!  It has been amazing having him home!  We have made big progress in getting organised for the arrival of our little man.
We are getting so excited now, and seeing all the little clothes washed and ready for him to wear has really made it all feel real (about time!)

As you can see from my measurements I’m now over 10 stone so I’ve put about 2 stone on in total so far.  I’m not worried about it, I’m not going to do any reading about whether this is “normal” or “too much” I don’t care right now.  I can worry about it afterwards!

My hands are really swollen now and are pretty hideous, think baseball mits!  The last couple of nights my feet have been swollen by the end of the day too, we went to a friends for dinner and I couldn’t get my shoes back on when we left!!
The midwife didn’t seem concerned as my blood pressure was fine, so again, I’ll not worry about it!

I’m struggling with sleep, I fall asleep very very fast but I’m waking lots trying to get comfortable.

I had a scan this week and we were told that little guy is weighing about 2.4kg right now and will be on track to weigh right about the same as Arthur did, small but perfectly formed!  Most importantly though he is very healthy in there!!  It was amazing to see him!  We got to see his face and we reckon he’s going to look just like Arthur!

So now there is only

36 weeks pregnant!  Countdown to Caesarian section.  Three weeks

Until we meet our Little guy (well actually it’s 2 weeks and 4 days as of today!!)
It’s also only 9 days until we go to Mahe so all very exciting!!

I have another midwife appointment next Thursday, my last one in Praslin! By next week we should be all ready, eeek still quite a lot to do!!
I’ll be back next week!

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35 weeks pregnant

I’m 35 weeks pregnant.  Check out my 34 week update if you missed it!

This week our little guy is around 46cm long and weighing around 2.4kg (around the same weight as a honeydew melon!)
His little kidneys are now fully functioning!

Here’s me this week:
35 weeks pregnant bump shot
Wow, this week has been a total blur.  It was Mark’s last week of work.  There was no letting the foot off the gas for the last week for him, it was crazy which of course ment that it was crazy at home too!!!
Couple that with Arthur not napping most days this week, makes for one tired pregnant mama!!

My baking urge has continued on.  It’s definitely making us all happy having lots of yummy food to eat, especially since we have all been so busy!

Braxton hicks are continuing along with heartburn (ouch!)

I have been thinking about what needs to be done before we head to Mahe as well as what I need to pack to take to Mahe with us.

First of all the house needs a really good clean and tidy up, we have to go through all of Arthur’s baby clothes to see what we need for this little man.  We also need to rearrange our bedroom a little to see where the cot, changing table etc will go!

For Mahe, I kinda need to double pack, for the week we are there before and then the for the 4-5 days I’m in hospital as well.  Luckily we won’t be on Mahe for as long as we were last time.  I definitely overpacked for the hospital last time and I’m keen not to do that again.  I want to take as little as possible and make it as easy to access as possible!

I’ve had no midwife appointment this week but I’ll be back next week (hopefully with my usual midwife this time!).  I also have another scan to check that our little guy is growing okay as he was a little small at our 32 week scan…..I’m not worried, we had the same with Arthur!

This weeks countdown to baby is a pretty exciting one as now we meet our little guy in
35 weeks pregnant countdown to Caesarian section 4 weeks

It’s starting to feel now, which it knew it would once Mark finished work!  We have just over 2 weeks until we go to Mahe too!  I’m trying to stay calm but I’m pretty notorious for my pre-trip panics and add having a baby in there and my poor brain goes into a bit of a meltdown!!

I’ll be back next week, hopefully feeling more organised and to share how my midwife appointment and scan went at 36 weeks!

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Having a baby in the Seychelles as an Expat

I wrote a post with a guide to expat pregnancy in the Seychelles so I thought I’d follow it up with a post about having a baby in the Seychelles 

Having a baby in the Seychelles as an expat

As I mentioned last time, I ended up having to have a Caesarian with Arthur due to him being breach.  

Now, I can only speak from my experience and that of people I know who have had their babies here too…
But, there’s an opinion that expats are ‘encouraged’ towards having a Caesarian anyway.  I’m not 100% sure why this is the case but I think it’s to guarantee what doctor you will have!  
Cynics will also tell you that it’s because you have to spend more money (cost of the operation plus a longer stay in hospital!) 

Saying that, as long as there are no medical reasons for having a Caesarian you’re not going to be forced to have one!

As my experience is in Caesarian section that’s what I’ll discuss here! 

CHECKING IN 
As I mentioned in my post about being pregnant here in Seychelles, we had done a hospital visit, had the shock that the hospital was pretty dated looking (to be nice) and could definitely do with at least a lick of paint!! I do want to say though that this was 2 years ago and they was a lot of construction going on so this may well no longer be the case….I’ll do an update to this post after we have our little boy bump next month!!

So I had to ‘check in’ to the hospital the day before my Caesarian at midday.  I met the anesthetist who discussed the different options with us, we settled on having an epidural as opposed to general anesetic.  He made me feel very positive and relaxed about the whole thing.  I had never actually considered general anesetic being an option to be honest but it was weirdly reassuring to know that different options were actually available.
I then went up to the ward where the baby was monitored and I was checked in.  I was asked a bunch of questions including some about my religious beliefs!!
I was taken to a bed in a big shared room but there were no other people in there.  
By around 2pm I was left to my own devices.  Not allowed to leave the hospital, no wifi, no AC…..boring to say the least!!  

DAY OF CAESARIAN 
The day of the operation I got to have Mark and my parents with me before I went in.  In the Seychelles no one is allowed in with you for the operation itself. So in I went all by myself!
I wrote more details of the operation and how it went in my birth story if you want to know more.

They used staples as opposed to stitches, I think this is uncommon in the UK. Not sure as to the benefits or drawbacks of either!
I was given morphine and paracetamol when I needed it afterwards.  

AFTER CARE: IN HOSPITAL 
I stayed in hospital for a total of 5 nights and In that time I had 3 different rooms.  It was pretty annoying having to move but I understood why, the first night in the “waiting room” as it was, the 2 days following the Caesarian in a room right opposite the midwives station and then I was moved right down the end for the last two nights.

When I had Arthur in 2013 there was 1 private room in the ward but it was not available.  They were in the process of a big renovation project and so I assume that there will be more.  However, I am not sure if that work has been completed yet.

In the night times they would take Arthur so that I slept.  At the time, this mortified me.  I felt like they thought I wasn’t capable of looking after my son.  I felt very vulnerable and upset.  Looking back on it now, I think the reasons behind it was because I’d had a Caesarian they wanted me to get rest.

I had a little trouble getting the hang of breastfeeding and the midwives were very supportive of me and helped whenever I needed it (although taking Arthur at night would have done nothing to help my milk supply!!!).  In the end, I was given a little bit of tough love.  I think that’s what I needed.  Honestly, I was an emotional mess while I was in hospital and I think I needed them to snap me out of it.

CHECKING OUT
So on my 6th day I knew I wanted to go home and had decided that I would be going home!!!  I had to wait to be ‘released’ by a doctor.  I was checked over and was given the ok.  I then had to wait for a paediatric nurse to ‘release’ Arthur.  He had lost a little weight but they said it was okay.

I called Mark and told him to come and get me, I was desperate to leave!!

The midwife then asked me if I’d have someone with me, aside from Mark.  When I said my mum would be there she told me
 “Good, otherwise I wouldn’t let you leave”
Essentially saying Mark and I couldn’t be trusted on our own…..great for my self esteem!
Again, looking back on this it makes perfect sense but at the time all I could think was that I was being judged as not good enough!!

We were given our bill that we had to pay, although we couldn’t pay it that day as it was a public holiday so the office was closed!

The bill is kind of hilarious, we couldn’t believe how literally EVERYTHING was individually itemised and charged for, right down to individual capsules of paracetamol! 
So it ended up coming to around 15,000SCR-roughly around £750 for 5 nights stay, my operation and all aftercare including meds and food-the hospital is most certainly NOT high on my recommended places to eat, I must say!

AFTER LEAVING HOSPITAL
Before we could leave Mahe, we had to register Arthur’s birth. Mark dealt with this, I did not need to be there!
As we had booked our accomodation based around having a natural birth we had extra time left at our apartment on Mahe. I had my staples checked and then taken out a few days later at a little health centre near where we were staying. There were no checks on Arthur for the rest of the time we were on Mahe which I thought was strange!

We took a flight back to Praslin, it was one of the more turbulent inter island flights we had. I was told I had to hold on very tight to Arthur! He was awake an decided he wanted to be fed and so screamed the whole way (luckily it’s only a 15 min flight) until I could feed him once we had landed safely!

Arthur was more than 2 weeks old before he had his first check. The midwife came to us and did a really quick check, looked round the house. Measured him (by hanging him upside down by his feet….no, really!) and then left again!
That was the only home visit we had. There wasn’t a whole lot of support post hospital I have to say.

From then on we went to our health centre for weight checks and vaccinations, none of which we have had to pay for.

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33 weeks pregnant!

I’m 33 weeks pregnant!  If you missed last week, check out my 32 week update!

This week little boy bump is weighing around 2kg (same as a pineapple, mmmm pineapple!) and is about 44cm long.

Here’s me this week

33 weeks pregnant bump shot

This week has actually gone quite quickly after me moaning about time going so slowly!!  I think having Arthur’s birthday to keep us all very busy definitely helped!

Braxton hicks are continuing daily now, sometimes even a couple times a day.

Kicks are continuing to be pretty painful too!!  They are also waking me up every night!!

My sleep in general is pretty rubbish again, therefore I’m really tired and very grumpy!!  Couple this with Arthur not napping every day any more (despite definitely still needing to!) and you get a few very long afternoons!!

I also had killer heartburn again last night Urgh!!

Okay, time to stop moaning….no more moans for the rest of the post I promise!!

After being told I’d not put any weight on last week I have pretty much not stopped eating.  I will be so surprised if I still haven’t gained weight by next week!

I realised on the 1st July that we could officially start saying that we would be having a baby next month, that was so exciting!  Also, a little bit scary!  I feel like it hasn’t truly sunk in that soon we will be 4 not 3!  I’m sure there is loads we need to sort out but I’m not really sure what!!!

So, it’s time for our countdown to my Caesarian!  We will be meeting our little boy bump in:
33 weeks pregnant, countdown to Caesarian section date
So exciting!!!

I’ll be back next week, hopefully I wouldn’t have been told off by the midwife for anything this time!!

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