Arthur and Freddie March 2017

Arthur and Freddie March 2017

It has been far too long since I’ve written a post about Arthur and Freddie.

I have no idea why I stopped doing their monthly updates because I absolutely loved it.  At the start of the year I promised myself that I would start writing them again.  Its now March and I haven’t done so.

However, I’m changing that today!  So here is a little post about Arthur and Freddie, as they are, right now!!

 

Arthur, aged 3years and 8months

Arthur: March 2017

This boy, is unbelievable right now.  I can not explain how proud I am of Arthur at the moment.  The thing that makes me most proud of Arthur right now has to be his manners.  He ALWAYS remembers his please and thank you’s and I love that.

He is always so happy to help whenever he can, and even when he can’t he’s right there wanting to!  He’s definitely is ready to start getting involved with some projects at home

We are working on building up his attention span because it can be pretty short.  We are getting some great support from school with this.

Arthur’s speech has come on immeasurably since he started school, every day he surprises me with something new.  I’m not exaggerating when I say that there has been real progress on a weekly basis.  His teacher and all our friends and family have noticed it and it is a big relief.  Its been something I have chosen not to speak about on here but it has been a big worry for us all.  There is still progress to be made but we are all delighted with the progress he has made so far!!

Arthur is building some lovely friendships at the moment and its so nice to see.  There are a couple of kids in his class who he is particularly fond of and he is so happy to see them every morning.  He is also so lucky to have the friendships of all mine and Mark’s friends too, they love him and look out for him so much.  Our ‘expat family’ is something I am eternally grateful for being so far away from our own!

A huge thing for Arthur in this last month is that he has all of a sudden turned into a full on fish!  He has ALWAYS loved the water but now, not only is he going underwater, he is actually starting to swim too! All by himself, he decided he was ready!

Arthur swimming at 3.5years old

Freddie aged 19 months

Freddie: March 2017

Where to start with Freddie!!!  He is honestly hilarious. I can’t believe how much he genuinely cracks me up on a daily basis.

At 19 months he is pretty sure he can do everything his brother can and theres not a lot thats going to stop him!  He is fearless, and oh so determined.  Freddie’s so happy every day when we get Arthur from school, although dragging him away when we drop him off in the morning is becoming a challenge – he loves going into class with ‘the big kids’.

This month Freddie was sick for almost a week.  He had a horrible fever, that seemed to spike in the afternoon. Also, he was eating very little the whole time.  I think I worried about this more than normal as when he had his 18month injection he hadn’t really gained any weight.  Now, rational me knows that they go through phases of this.  But, panic-y worrying about being judged by everyone me went into a bit of a meltdown over this!  He is eating again now, although he is becoming really picky which is SO annoying!!

We can’t get over how stroppy he can be.  I know time puts rose tinted glasses on things but I am sure he throws bigger, and much longer tantrums then Arthur did at this age.  Another sign of just how strong willed Freddie is.

My favourite thing about Freddie right now is how, when he’s tired, he comes and lies down over his legs or plops himself onto the bed or any soft object around.  Then he wants me to tickle his back.  Its so cute, he goes all super cuddly and lovely!

Freddie is starting to pick up quite a few words.  ‘No’ is a definite favourite.  He says Mummy a lot and also, ‘fish’ ‘shark’ and ‘whale’ in true island boy fashion!

 

Together

Arthur & Freddie March 2017

Together, Arthur and Freddie are becoming a real team.  They still love to be in each others company and mostly wants the other to be involved with whatever they are doing.  I’m starting to notice that if one is upset and having a cuddle with me, the other is all of a sudden upset and wants the same too.   Freddie is really copying things Arthur is doing, and saying too.

Arthur really looks out for Freddie.  The other day we had an interesting incident where Arthur pushed Freddie but it was because he was getting him away from the oven (not on) that he was trying to touch.  We were really happy that Arthur was protecting Freddie but had to at the same time tell him that he shouldn’t have pushed him!

 

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Arthur has started school

The time is here, Arthur has started school.

Arthur has started school

We are so proud of how our little man has got on.

I have taken Arthur in to school to play at get used to it for a while now, but it has only ever been for an hour or so and never on his own.

So I’ve said before but the international school here on Praslin starts in reception 1 (3yrs old) right up to 6th form where they do A-levels (18yrs old).  Reception 1 is essentially nursery.  The school follows the British curriculum so kids are doing as they would be in the UK.

To help get the little ones settled they are allowed to start in Reception 1 in the half term that they turn 3 years old.  So Arthur is starting this last half term of the school year
We agreed with his teacher that Arthur would just come in for the mornings for now.  He will go full time in September.

So, on the 30th May Arthur got his little school uniform on and off we went to school.  I tried to get lots of obligatory first day of school pictures, Arthur was not all that interested in that though!!

Arthur has started school

 

Arthur has started school

It is a moment I’ve been trying to prepare myself for for what feels like ages now.  I won’t lie, I’ve got myself upset many times just thinking about it all!!

arthur has started school

arthur has started school

We walked into school and his teacher met us outside, she took Arthur to the classroom and off he went.  He gave me a kiss and said “bye bye mummy!”  I was so proud at how he took it all in his stride!

I managed to hold back my tears until I got to the car where I allowed myself to have a couple minutes before telling myself to get a grip!!!

We are in the amazing situation that we know everyone at school really well and everyone has known Arthur since he was born so I knew that there were so many people there looking out for him…..including of course Mark, being the headteacher!  I think he found a few extra reasons to pop down and have a little peek in the class for Arthur’s first day!!

I had lots of texts from different people, updating me through the morning letting me know what Arthur was up to which I loved!

Freddie and I had a nice quiet morning together, we had lots of stories and cuddles before his nap.  I then had a couple hours to myself for the first time in AGES!!  I didn’t really know what to do with myself and as a result wasn’t all that productive!!

When I went to pick Arthur up he was really happy to see me and Freddie but didn’t want to go home, a good sign for sure!!  We managed to get him in the car and then we had a lovely quiet and cuddley afternoon at home.

That evening, we got an email with lots of photos from Arthur’s first day by his teacher, it made my day to get a peek into what he had been up to that day!

Arthur has started school

Arthur has started school

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Arthur has started school

After a couple of days we’ve got into the swing of it  now those couple of hours when Freddie is napping flies by as I get as much done as I possibly can – I had visions of being able to spend more time blogging, that REALLY hasn’t happened!!

It’s now been 2 weeks of school for Arthur and he’s absolutely loving it.  He is settling in so well, we really couldn’t be more proud of him.

His teacher tells us that he’s joining in with activities more and more every day which makes me really happy to hear.  Arthur comes home and sings songs he’s learned at school, it amazes us how quickly he’s picked things up!!

Arthur has been napping again in the afternoon most days after school, he comes home so happy but tired.

I know that starting school has been so good for him in so many ways but particularly for getting to socialise with other kids his own age!

For me its really nice to see him coming out of his shell with other people, he has always been quite shy around people he doesn’t know. I can see his confidence growing in even this short time.

I felt really sad at the ‘end of an era’ of having my now not so little guy at home with me every day, but seeing how happy he is and how good it has been for him has really helped me to get over that. We are now celebrating the start of the school era for Arthur!

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Arthur is 34 months old

Arthur is now 34 months old.
Arthur is 34 months old

This month has gone by like a flash.
The first half we had Mark home with us as it was school Easter holidays, Arthur always loves it when Daddy is off work!!

Daddy is big favourite to Arthur right now, he must say Daddy at least 100 times a day!

During the Easter holidays We had our amazing trip to Silhouette island where Arthur had an absolute blast.  He still talks about going to “our little house” now which I love!
Arthur is 34 months old. Silhouette island

Arthur is 34 months old. Arthur and Daddy

Arthur had an unplanned couple of hours at school this month as I had to take Freddie to hospital (he’s totally fine but more on that here!)
Mark took him into the class and apparently he was as good as gold and had a great time.  When I went to go and pick him up he was happy to see me but wasn’t ready to go home!!  I took that as a good sign for when he starts in June!

The following couple of days Arthur napped on the sofa at lunchtime!!  I was SO excited at the prospect of nap time returning but it seems it was just a random couple of days!!

I’ve been a little worried about Arthur’s eating recently.  He is pretty reluctant to eat a full meal most days and just wants to get on with playing (Mark’s mum tells me he was exactly the same!!) he seems happiest with smaller meals and snacks throughout the day.  Obviously I want to make sure he has enough to eat but at the same time I don’t want him to just snack all the time…. It’s pretty frustrating!

We had a couple weeks of at nighttime accidents.  Changing sheets every day grew thin quickly, but things seem to be back on track now.  Not really sure what caused it.  Apparently it’s really common up to 6 years old to not be dry at night so I need to remember just how good Arthur has been doing so far!!

Arthur has always been very shy with strangers and often will hide or pretend they aren’t there!!  We have noticed a little shift in Arthurs shyness this month, he has started to open up to people a little more, showing him the toy he’s playing with or something along those lines.  It’s not all the time and not with everyone but I have been really amazed and proud of him for it.  It may not be a big deal to everyone, but knowing just how painfully shy he can be it is a big deal for him!!

This month we’ve started to see Arthur testing and pushing boundaries quite a bit, doing things he knows he shouldn’t be and trying out new things!  There has been lots of “NO MUMMY” “NO DADDY” and running away if we tell him to stop doing something, or just outright ignoring us!
It’s been tough, but he’s quick to turn it all around with a big “cuggle” a kiss or even just a cheesy grin!

Arthur is 34 months old

Mark and I are definitely noticing that Arthur is becoming a lot braver with his little adventures whether that’s just in the garden, at the beach or anywhere really…he climbs a bit higher, wanders a bit further away, just generally gaining confidence with everything he does, it’s great but scary for us too!
Arthur is 34 months old. Arthur at anse lazioArthur is 34 months old. Splashing at anse lazio

He’s been a proper little parrot this month, I think he’s taking in lots of new words (so we’ve really had to watch what we say!!).  His speech continues to develop all the time and some of the things he comes out with really amazes me, and often makes us all laugh too!

I have had days where I have found it really tough to keep him entertained all day, for me it’s final confirmation that he really is ready to be in school!!   It’s really not long until he will be there now, so on those days that are tough I’ve been trying to remind myself to make the most of it all!

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Arthur is 33 months old

Arthur is 33 months old.  The double three this month is a big reminder that we are on the serious countdown to Him turning 3 years old!

Arthur is 33 months old

I have loved this month with Arthur, he has been an absolute pleasure to be around.  I really can’t say enough good things about him.  He seems to have developed loads of new interests, becomes funnier every day but is still our sweet natured gorgeous little boy.

 

His speech is developing at a rapid rate which is amazing and in turn, helping to reduce tantrums a little!

 

He loves playing in Freddie’s cot, takes all his soft toys in there and ‘puts them to bed’ tucking them all in with his blanket.  He’s also started to ‘change’ them by wiping their bums (or that general area depending on the toy!) it’s super cute!!  The best bit is that he always wants Freddie in there with him!

 

Arthur plays more and more with his toys, current favourites aside from the soft toys, are his cars.  I love watching him get lost in his own little world playing!

 

He shows less interest in TV all the time, and will very rarely now watch for more than 30mins before getting bored, whereas he used to happily sit through a film!  The exception being that he’s just developed a fascination with “racing cars”, much to Mark’s delight as it means we can now have the F1 on without there being a tantrum that it’s not Peppa Pig!!  He loves to tell us the different colour cars and that “they are fixing the cars” every time a car is in the pits!  They are apparently constantly crashing too, even when they are not!!  When there is an actual crash he thinks it’s the best!  The cutest thing about this though is that he has to get his cars out at the same time and they race too!

 

Another interest that’s emerging this month is cooking!  I bake bread at least twice a week and usually cookies at least once a week and Arthur loves to help me.  I pull up a stool to the kitchen counter and he sits along side me.  He loves when I explain everything that goes into what I’m making and repeats it all back like he’s storing it to memory!  I LOVE that he’s showing an interest in cooking and it’s something I definitely plan to encourage as much as possible!

 

With Arthur getting closer and closer to going to school I needed to start focusing on getting him to wear clothes, something this little island boy is not a fan of!  My first goal is to just get him to keep some pants on!  This little island boy likes to be au natural so it’s definitely a challenge, I think this might be a whole blog post in itself soon!

 

We are now in Easter holidays and so Mark is home with us for 2.5 weeks, Arthur absolutely adores having his Daddy home and I know there will be lots of fun for us all in this time.
I am very aware that after the Easter holidays there is only half a school term left before Arthur starts going to school, at least for a couple mornings a week.  I intend to cherish every second I have with our gorgeous messy haired little guy until then!!

33 months old

 

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Arthur is 32 months old

Arthur is 32 months old.
32 months old
This month has been a busy one.  We have not only moved house, but we also had a week without Mark when he went to London to interview new teachers.

I was a little worried about how Arthur would deal with the house move this time around.  We spoke about it loads in the month leading up to it and we were lucky enough to have the key for that month so we could visit lots (and spread the move over time which helped loads!). That meant Arthur had lots of time to get used to and explore our new house.  He’s been so happy here right from the start.  He loves his new room and slept great right fro, the start.
Every morning he’s been waking up and saying “nice new house”.  It makes me so happy!!
We have also had a little sleep revalation since we’ve moved.  Arthur now sleeps, or at least is happy to stay in his room until about 7am every day!!  For anyone that knows us, or regularly reads my blog you will know what a dream that is!  Arthur has always been an early riser (like 5am early) and so for me to be able to get up have a shower and a cup of tea before he’s up has changed our whole day let alone morning!!

His later wake ups mean I’ve been getting a chance to get myself sorted and prepared for my little whirlwind when he gets up!!

I’ve also been giving him breakfast as soon as he wakes up, that’s cut out early morning TV time and asking for cookies every morning!!

I can’t express enough how much of a difference this has made to our whole day.  Everyone starts the day less grumpy and it really does set the tone for the whole day.

Not sure if it’s connected but Arthur is showing less and less interest in the TV, he does like it on but he rarely sits through anything any more.

Arthur does have time on the iPad every day.  It’s the same time every day and it’s always taken away after the same amount of time.  It’s not connected to the Internet and only has the apps allowed by us.  He is always really good when it’s time to take it off him.  There are some that will be quite judgemental of us allowing him to play on it but now he’s not napping it’s the only truly quiet time  I get during the day.  It gives me a bit of time to reset and get some stuff done and so for us it’s all good.

He is showing much more interest in his toys each day.  He plays so nicely and it’s really lovely to watch as well as jumping in and getting involved with him.

One of Arthur’s favourite games to play with me is ‘picnic’.  The best thing about this is that we use nothing to play it except our imaginations!  We sit down and munch away on whatever Arthur fancies ‘eating’ at the time, it quite often involves sweeties and chocolate cake but just as often some juice and apples (just like his real life requests!)
He also loves to sit down and read stories both with us and alone.  I love listening him to while he “reads” any of his stories it’s so cute!

I am being increasingly aware of the fact that Arthur will be starting school soon. He will be going in for the last half term of the school year, I think just for mornings and maybe only a couple days a week depending how he gets on! He will be starting properly in September. I’m trying to soak in all the moments I can with him right now. Don’t get me wrong there are times when I’m totally ready for him to, like mid tantrum; but in general I know I’ll miss him lots when he starts!!

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31 months old

Arthur is now 31 months old.

31 months old

This month has been all about getting back into routine after the Christmas holidays.

Mark is now back at work and I was worried about how we were going to get on now that Arthur is no longer taking naps.  In general, I must say I think we’ve done pretty well.  As a bonus for us Arthur is actually sleeping in a little more getting up between 6 and 7.  I think, as much as I’d love if he was still napping, we have done well with how he has transitioned to not having a nap.  In general, he gets through the day very well.

Arthur is getting better at understanding that he can have one on one time with me when Freddie is napping and is starting to be great at entertaining himself for little periods of time (without the TV!) too.  Day by day his imagination is growing and I love seeing the little things he comes up with.

While Arthur knows that while Freddie sleeps he can have me to himself, he will still often go in to see Freddie in his cot.  He is such a caring brother.  Now Freddie is having a bottle at bed time, Arthur always makes sure that we have it for him and loves seeing Freddie drinking it!

He is becoming such a little dare devil too, he wants to jump off everything, and he is an unbelievable climber!  The other day I discovered he’d climbed up to the third shelf in my wardrobe and was just sat in there!!  I’m hoping that this is going to develop into getting him to jump in the pool!  I got him to jump into the baby pool the other day and he realised that it was really fun, he did it over and over!  Being a shallow pool he didn’t go under the water!  I think I’ll work on getting him super confident with that before pushing my luck with trying to get him jumping into the big pool (with his swim jacket on of course!!)

Something else that is really amazing to see develop is his want of independence.  He now likes to go to the toilet without anyone there and will often shut the door, and one of his little games he places is saying to me “bye mummy see you later” and then wondering off somewhere (often to do something he knows he’s not allowed to do, little monkey)
He now doesn’t get really upset if I go out or if he is going somewhere without me.  It lets me know that he’s secure enough to know that I will come back or that I’m not abandoning him!!  I think it will help him when he starts school!

As much as Arthur enjoys splashing in the pool, without doubt he loves the ocean even more.  Usually he gets bored at the pool after a little while but he will never get bored of splashing in the water at the beach!   He really does turn into a little fish once hes in the water.  Nothing makes me happier than seeing how much he loves being in the water.

Arthurs speech continues to develop and get clearer every day.  He is so expressive, he really cracks us up all the time.

Every day he does something that makes me laugh, and something that makes me so incredibly proud!  Of course he does things that drive me crazy too but I couldn’t love this little guy any more!!

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I have lost the nap war

It’s official, Arthur is no longer napping during the day.  I have lost the nap war.

I have lost the nap war, how it happened and what I'm gonna do about it

I have written about previous nap battles in the past.  We’ve had struggles, but in the end I’ve always ‘won’ and nap time would continue.  Little blimps have occurred here and there but Arthur would always end up napping again.
I suppose it was always inevitable that despite him losing these battles, Arthur would always win the war.

A long time ago I remember reading somewhere that kids need to nap until they were three.  I would always remember that during times when Arthur would resist going down for a nap.  It would be my motivation to keep trying to get him to sleep.  Now Arthur is 2.5 years and I can’t help but feel like I’m missing out on an extra 6 months of nap times, I guess like all parenting advice out there, we’ve learned to take it with a pinch of salt!

 

How we knew it was time to let it go.
Arthur was always great at nap time, we could put him in his bedroom and we would know he’d be asleep within a couple of minutes.
Over the last few months it’s been taking him longer and longer to go down for a nap.
I initially put his nap time back by an hour and this did help for a short while.  Even then it was not long before he started taking ages to go down, I’m talking over an hour.

When he would eventually go to sleep, I’d give him his couple hours and then go and wake him up.  He’d then be in an unbelievably bad mood.  This wasn’t too bad when we could snap him out of it within 20 mins or so.  The problem came when it started taking him around an hour to get out of a serious grump.
When I’m talking about a grump, I don’t just mean in a bit of a bad mood – I can relate to being in a bit of a bad mood when I get up.  I mean a foul horrible mega tantrum filled mood.

We tried a few different ways to try and solve these issues.  Waking him up nice and slowly with lots of cuddles.  Waking him up quickly and leaving him to it.  Pretty much everything in between.
We tried shortening his nap.  We tried running him ragged until he without doubt definitely needed a sleep.

In the end when it was generally taking more than an hour for him to go to sleep and then around the same time to get him back to his usual happy self.  We decided that it wasn’t worth the upset for us all. We would try and struggle through and see how we go.

You might think that I’ve given up to soon, with this.  Believe me that’s not the case, I am going to seriously miss Arthur’s nap time.  Those two hours were my time; to do some blogging, to eat my lunch in peace, to do nothing in particular!
It’s been Christmas holiday’s and Its been really nice having Mark home but I’m honestly a little worried about how I will cope when he goes back to school.

Obviously there’s Freddie to entertain too and I feel bad that he now won’t be getting any solo time with me.

 

What we are gonna do about it

So looking forward, my plan is to try and ensure that I’ve got lots of activities planned for Arthur, to keep him from being bored, because if there’s one thing that’s worse than a tired toddler, it’s a tired and bored toddler!!
It would be easy for me to just stick the TV on but I’m trying to limit that!  Don’t get me wrong, I’m in no way frowning on TV, I’m not sure how I’d get through the day without it at all but I know we function better when there’s some structure to TV time (Arthur knows when he can have it and when he can’t and so it limits whining!)
I am also going to test out some “down time” for Arthur where he’s in his bedroom without sleeping, if anyone has any tips for this please let me know!!

Arthur will be starting at school, in June.  It will be a blink of an eye until he’s there.  I will do my best to remind myself of this on the tougher days and try to enjoy every second with my little guy!

In just a couple of weeks we have already noticed Arthur’s night time sleep adjusting.  He has always been a really early riser, getting up around 5am ish. 6 would be a mega lie in for us!  However, we are now getting 6am as the normal and have even had some 7-7:30am wake ups.  This is a definite bonus of losing nap time!  There have been a couple times, when we’ve had really busy days that Arthur has crashed out on the sofa or fallen asleep in the car.  Not for any considerable amount of time and he doesn’t seem to be quite as grumpy when waking up from these.

 

Have you lost the nap war yet, or are you still living the nap time dream with your little ones?
Any tips on quiet time/down time for toddlers I’d love to hear them!

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