Top 10 tips to help lessen the stress of moving abroad

Moving abroad is hardly an everyday event. There’s loads to do, plenty to plan, and life still goes on in the mean time! A sure fire way to take the stress out of your big move is to take up these ten tips to ensure you are fully prepared a smooth move.

Top 10 tips to lessen the stress of moving abroad

Here are my top 10 tips to help lesson the stress of moving abroad:


1.  Do your research

top 10 tips to help lesson the stress of moving abroad
Make sure you’re up to date on the country you’re moving to! More importantly, have a look at the local towns you’ll be living near; after all, you’ll soon be seeing them every day.  Any cultural quirks or unusual laws are definitely worth reading up on so you don’t get off to two wrong feet when it comes to adjusting to your new home. It may also help to look into the best moving & shipping companies to use in your big move. Remember to read the reviews!


If you’re moving for business find out everything about your relocation package; what your shipping allowance is, if you are given accommodation (or a budget for accommodation), if you have medical insurance covered etc.


Search the internet for any expat blogs about living in the country you are moving to.  You are almost certainly not the first person to relocate to your chosen country and there are thousands of expat bloggers around these days!  You will get a true and unbiased insight into what expat life is like where you are going!  Get in touch with them, you can’t have too many contacts when you move to a new country!



2. Make a list

Top 10 tips to help lessen the stress of moving abroad
Rule one of anything that requires packing is make a list. Then make a list of the list. Then make a list of all the lists you’ve listed! Start by writing down all the things you can possibly think of to take with you – that includes everything: passport, pants, toothbrush, potato peeler, the lot. Once you’ve done that you can divide them into relevant groups like bathroom, bedding, and utensils. It’s far easier to tick an item off a list than find yourself knee deep in a box looking for the ladle.



3. Pack all but the essentials!

Pack all the big things two nights before you leave for example, clothes, books; everything that you don’t still need to use. Essentials like toothbrushes, the shoes and clothes you need to wear over the next couple of days, a couple of your kids favourite toys and keys will be needed on the big day so leave them to be packed at the last minute.


Many expats (myself included!) sell many of their ‘big things’ before going abroad to save the cost of shipping or storage. Having done your research you’ll know what is available to buy there and if your new house will be furnished so this will help with your decisions here!


4. Take mini breaks

top 10 tips to help lesson the stress of moving abroad
Planning a move is stressful enough but moving abroad comes with lots of additional problems. Remember to take a break at least once a day whilst you’re organising planning and packing. Try to go for a walk, make a cup of coffee or just sit down and think about something else. Any problems you’re struggling with will be better come at with a fresh head.



5. Finance and Legal matters
Nobody enjoys the small print, loopholes and devilish detail of legal and financial matters, but it’s an important part of moving abroad. If accountancy and international law isn’t your forte, seek out guidance from a professional who can help you through the more complicated procedures. Any money spent on professional help will be worth it to make sure you have all the right assets to set up comfortably.



6. Give yourself time

top 10 tips to help lessen the stress of moving abroad
Don’t leave everything to the last minute! Once you’ve decided to move abroad you’ll likely be thinking about it a lot and you can never start planning early enough. Giving yourself enough time for things like giving notice in at your job, moving the kids to their new school, and saying goodbye to friends and family is all just as important as booking tickets and finding a home in your new country.



7. Go compare
Have a look around the market to make sure you’re getting the best possible deal. Things like flight prices, rent rates, and local transport can peak or ebb at different times of the year. Decide when you’re likely to get the best deal without compromising where you want to live. All moves abroad are expensive but some are more expensive than others!



8. Prioritise

There’s loads to do, but you can’t do it all in one day! Decide which things are most urgent and which can be left till later. You’re less likely to overlook one aspect, or forget something if your attention is split over multiple tasks. Time to consult those helpful lists again!



9. Bubble days
These are the days when nothing has gone to plan: you’ve got ten things on the go, plus you had a hard day at work, the kids need feeding and nothing has been packed yet! It’s a day to just accept the stress and blow some bubbles, or have a bubble bath, or pop some bubble wrap. Surrender to the stress instead of fighting, of course moving abroad is stressful. Allow yourself to feel overwhelmed from time to time.



10. Remember why you’re going there

top 10 tips to help lessen the stress of moving abroad
Why did you decide on that particular country? With all the commotion and conundrums of moving, it’s essential you keep in mind all the good things waiting for you when you get there. Have a look at pictures of your new country; look up some of the local things to do. And look forward to it! Remember, you’re moving there for a reason.



If moving abroad were a blissful easy task, we’d all be doing it. You are being one of the brave people, up and leaving to pastures new. So give yourself a break! Remember to plan effectively and enjoy the time with family and friends before you take the leap.


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Arthur and Freddie {April 2016}

As always I’m late with this post!  Perhaps next month I’ll have got organised!

Arthur and Freddie.  Every day these two become closer, they are truly the best of best friends!  I know I sound like a broken record each month but it really is true.


As you may have seen we went on an amazing trip to Silhouette Island and we all got some really great downtime together.  Heres a couple shots of my boys while we were there.

Arthur and Freddie April 2016

Arthur and Freddie April 2016
Arthur and Freddie April 2016
I think they look really alike in that bottom picture!  Over time they are looking more and more alike.  Freddie is a lot fairer than Arthur is but their facial features are definitely started to become more similar

This month Freddie has started crawling and walks around in his baby walker or holding on to our hands.  Arthur thinks its amazing and wants Freddie to chase him.  It will be a little while before any ‘high speed’ chasing goes on but they are still both having a blast!!

Arthur absolutely loves to make Freddie laugh. He is so ready to play the clown for him anytime! His favourite tricks are to blow raspberries and to speak to him using baby words “blah blah dada mama” and all kinds of things I wouldn’t even begin to know how to type! No one can make Freddie laugh like Arthur can.

Freddie totally looks up to Arthur. You can tell he wants to be doing everything Arthur does. Its so cute, but I know that its going to lead to Freddie getting lots of bangs and bumps (he had one this week in fact but i’ll write about that soon!!)

Arthur still wants to involve Freddie in everything he does, I love that! there’s even been a few times recently where he’s told me that i can’t play when they are doing stuff together; that I love less but I can’t have it all!!

There is not too much longer until Arthur starts doing mornings in school (around 6 weeks I think) and so I’m savouring the special moments these little guys have together right now!!


Hilton Labriz: Silhouette Island

To celebrate my 30th birthday, Mark treated us to a stay at the beautiful Hilton Labriz on Silhouette island over the easter holidays.

We stayed for two nights and we really fell in love with the place. So I had to tell you all about it!


Getting there:

We took a flight from Praslin to Mahe which was severely delayed (this is very unusual I must say, but they are implementing a new system there which temporarily slowed things down!). We were very worried that we were going to miss our boat so we ran out of the air port when we landed on Mahe and grabbed the nearest taxi driver who turned out to be great. We called the hotel on route and they were very accommodating and even delayed departure for a few minutes!!

To get to Silhouette Island the Hilton have a boat that runs a few times a day from a little jetty at Bel Ombre on Mahe. Its advertised as taking about 45 minutes but when we went the water was so still it took only 30 minutes! The Hilton can also arrange a private boat or helicopter ride to get you there #fancy

Boat to the Hilton Labriz Silhouette island


The boat was fully air conditioned which was nice, but if it wasn’t so flat I think I probably would have got sea sick with the lack of fresh air.

Air conditioned boat to the Hilton Labriz Silhouette island

I’d recommend sea sickness tablets just in case….. no one wants to arrive on holiday after being sick on a boat, not glamorous!!


We were greated by staff waving and a big welcome banner, a nice touch!! We were then taken to our golf buggy and given a tour around the hotel with a little history of the island too which was very nice. Having our own private buggy was fun and Arthur really enjoyed it!


Our Room:
We stayed in a King Garden villa it was so nice.

King Garden Villa Hilton Labriz Silhouette Island

Our bed was huge and SO comfy. They also added a bed for Arthur and a cot for Freddie. The sofa had even been made into a bed as there was a little confusion in our request so there was space for the 4 of us even if Freddie wasn’t in a cot! Arthur did like having two beds to choose from though!!

We had a little veranda which Mark and I sat out on in the evenings when the boys had gone to bed.

The bathroom was amazing and probably my favourite bit, there was a HUGE bath a lovely shower and another shower outside! The little garden at the back was totally private, so having a shower out there was great!!

Bathroom King Garden Villa Hilton Labriz Silhouette Island

Our villa was probably only about 10m away from the beach so I wouldn’t be put off thinking that its not close to the beach!! Some of them were a little further but I’d guess that none of them were further than 20m away from the beach!


The hotel was so well set up for kids. This was our first holiday as a family of 4 and we were really pleased with the facilities there.

There was a kids club, a little old for our boys, recommended for 4+ years.

The swimming pool was amazing. It was so pretty.

Swimming Pool Hilton Labriz Silhouette Island

Split into two, one side was deeper and the other side was lovely and shallow, the boys had the best time splashing around.  I took SO many pictures here, it was just beautiful!

Swimming Pool Hilton Labriz

The first day Arthur literally stayed in the pool ALL day. He even had a nap on a sun bed in the afternoon as he’d tired himself out so much (Arthur stopped napping around 4 months ago now so he really must have been tired out!)

Swimming Pool Hilton Labriz

There were bikes everywhere that you could hop on and ride, you signed them out and you had the first hour free after that I think it was 100scr per hour.  The boys (and yes I’m including Mark in this!) loved this bike and had lots of fun with it

Bike rental Hilton Labriz

There was also lots of other little things dotted around to keep you entertained, boules, giant chess, crazy golf etc!

There is a 5* dive centre on Silhouette too.  As our stay was so short we didn’t get a chance to go diving this time, but next time (yes there will definitely be a next time) we will be sure to check it out.


We had two delicious breakfasts at the Hilton Labriz.  Its a buffet style with something for everyone.  There was an amazing selection.  Of course I took advantage of the bubbles available at breakfast too!!

We also had one of our dinners in the main restaurant, again it was buffet style.  That night it was Italian and there was so much choice.  There was a little play area there that Arthur loved.  I liked that there were tables there so families could enjoy a stress free dinner.  There was also a separate area for diners not wishing to be near the kids area!

For our second night we visited the amazing Japanese restaurant.  It was so delicious.  Unfortunately both of the boys were incredibly tired so it wasn’t a long visit!  After eating our dinner pretty quickly Mark and I ordered a bottle of wine to the Villa and got the boys to bed.



The Spa at the Hilton Labriz is beautiful.  It is set into the mountain and built around granite boulders.

Spa entrance at Hilton Labriz

The spa menu is fantastic!  I had a Deluxe Pedicure which even included a head massage so top to toe I came out feeling lovely and revived!

Spa at Hilton Labriz

The massages sound divine too, next time (yep there’s that next time again!) I’ll be sure to test it out so I can report back on how good it is (I know, I know, I’m a true hero!)



Seeing as we were there for such a short time we didn’t spend a whole lot of time on the beach, or really do any exploring outside of the resort.  That said the beaches we did see were beautiful.

Beach Hilton Labriz Silhouette Island


Evening beach Hilton Labriz silhouette island


Sunset Hilton Labriz silhouette Island

So there we have it.  A fantastic stay at the Hilton Labriz, we will certainly be back there as soon as we can!

staying at the Hilton Labriz with kids

My Expat Family 21

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Freddie is 8 months old

Freddie is 8 months old!

Freddie is 8 months old

This has been a BIG BIG month for my tiny one!

He has a tooth!!  Woohoo, I was genuinely starting to get concerned that he was never going to get any!!  I had been secretly googling about it like the crazy mama I tend to be with this sort of thing!!  The first tooth to come through was on the bottom the left front one (there’s obviously a proper name for it but I’m sure you know what I mean) the one next to it is on its way as are the top front two!

He has started crawling!!  This is big!  He is getting really good on the bed, he gets up on his knees and makes really quick progress; on the floor he’s not as slick looking but does make progress.  All our floors are tiled so crawling must be easier for him on the bed.

Freddie is starting to pull himself up to standing!  Eeek, my little guy looks far to small to me to be doing this!  He pulled himself up in his cot the other day (of course, I missed him actually doing it I just walked in to see him stood there looking all proud of himself!!) He also pulls himself up holding on to our hands, or clambers up to standing if we are sat with him on the sofa!
He definitely wants to be walking too, he gets around in his baby walker really well and will take steps when we hold his hands.  SCARY!  Arthur started walking at 9-10 months so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised but I’m so not ready for it!!

With both his crawling and his standing he gets himself on such a mission, he is a really determined little guy it’s amazing to watch, I’m not sure where he gets his stubbornness from………!  When he gets done what he wants to do is little face lights up so much, you can see how proud he is that he’s done it!

Another great first for Freddie this month is he had his first holiday, and what a holiday!  We went to silhouette island and stayed at the Hilton Labriz.  It was my 30th birthday present (although that’s not until the 15th!) It was amazing, I’ll write a post all about it soon!  Little Freddie has no idea how lucky he is to have had his first holiday in such an amazing location, he definitely enjoyed it all though, despite the fact he was struggling so much with teething.

Freddie is 8 months old

This month we have also switched almost exclusively to formula.  He was becoming less and less interested in breastfeeding and I was becoming more and more desperate for him to sleep better at night (I am connecting the two as when I switched to formula with Arthur his sleep dramatically improved).  Now I am only feeding Freddie at night and he’s having three bottles of formula during the day.  I had been feeding him on the first feed of the morning up until the middle of last week.  The day I switched that feed to bottle, Freddie woke only once at night and has continued to do so.  I’m hoping it won’t be long until he’s going right through!

Mark is back at work this week so after a nice Easter break its time to get back into proper routine again.  Mark has absolutely loved having more time with Freddie and Freddie has definitely enjoyed getting to spend more time with his Daddy!
Freddie is still loving Arthur, he really does want to be doing what he does, it’s so cute!

With so many changes for this little guy in one month it’s reminded me why I am so happy I have this blog, I love that we will be able to look back on this one say and see how much happened in such a short space of time!

Fit Mamas Club April 2016

Fit Mamas Club April 2016

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