Fit Mamas Club February 2016

Fit Mamas Club February 2016

Hello and welcome to Fit Mamas Club. The monthly linky where you can share your fitness and healthy lifestyle post!!

I started this linky along with Toni from to help keep myself motivated in my fitness and to help motivate other Fit Mamas (and Daddy’s too of course!). I wrote a little more about why we got started when I first wrote about Fit Mamas Club if you want to read more!

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My fitness in February

I’m excited to Be doing these monthly fitness update posts.  A roundup of my fitness journey.  This is where I will be totally accountable for any laziness and where I can be proud of my successes!!

I’m not one for worrying about what the scales say, I care much more about how my clothes fit.  I’m proud to say that I am back into my pre pregnancy clothes, thanks to a mixture of breastfeeding, exercise and of course I can’t rule out genetics too (thanks mum and dad!!)

My fitness in February

Okay, I’m throwing it out there right now: my fitness in February had SUCKED!!!

Here comes the excuses part:

  • We moved house
  • Mark was in London for a week so I couldn’t get out to yoga class or for any runs at that time.

So there’s my excuses over and done with.  Let’s get on and take a look at what I have actually done this month.


So aside from the week when Mark was away, I have continued going to my weekly yoga class  Rather excitedly I now also have my new Yoga pants!!  I am actually in love with them, I haven’t yet got a proper picture but I promise I’ll share next month!  I’d love to say that they have turned me into a yoga master, but unfortunately not!  They do however make me want to become one, if only to have an excuse to buy more!!



Okay, so this is where I feel I have really failed this month.  I have only been running twice in the whole of February *hangs head in shame*

I wanted to run more than 5k this month, I haven’t managed it.  The new route from our new house feels a lot more challenging than our old one.  There’s hills and it is a lot more exposed to the sun.  Its been really hot and humid and so its really energy sapping anyway, let alone when trying to run!

Mark going away for a week obviously is a valid excuse as to why I didn’t run that week, but I then kinda just extended that excuse for the week after too.  There have been a couple other extenuating circumstances with Mark having to do a few things with work but in general I have just not taken the opportunities to get out and run when they have been there.

I am definitely annoyed at myself and have been feeling sluggish as a result of it so I will certainly be pushing myself more next month.

As i have been so rubbish this month, Ive not bothered to do any total distance covered or any fancy chart.  Its quick, Ive ran 10k this month.  At least it is an easy goal to beat next month I suppose!!!



I did not manage to succeed on last months targets.  To help boost my morale a little  I have decided to make my targets for this month a *little* easier, by reducing the amount of times I plan to get out for a run.  Obviously if i then do more than that it would be great.  I think I need to be realistic and remind myself that while I would love to say I would go out running three times a week, it is just not all that achievable all the time.  There is no point setting goals that I am unable to achieve, thats no good for motivation at all!

So here are my targets for March.

  • Continue weekly yoga class
  • Practice yoga at home at least once a week
  • Run at least once a week.
  • Minimum running distance of 5k
  • Run further than 5k at least once this month.


Arthur is 32 months old

Arthur is 32 months old.
32 months old
This month has been a busy one.  We have not only moved house, but we also had a week without Mark when he went to London to interview new teachers.

I was a little worried about how Arthur would deal with the house move this time around.  We spoke about it loads in the month leading up to it and we were lucky enough to have the key for that month so we could visit lots (and spread the move over time which helped loads!). That meant Arthur had lots of time to get used to and explore our new house.  He’s been so happy here right from the start.  He loves his new room and slept great right fro, the start.
Every morning he’s been waking up and saying “nice new house”.  It makes me so happy!!
We have also had a little sleep revalation since we’ve moved.  Arthur now sleeps, or at least is happy to stay in his room until about 7am every day!!  For anyone that knows us, or regularly reads my blog you will know what a dream that is!  Arthur has always been an early riser (like 5am early) and so for me to be able to get up have a shower and a cup of tea before he’s up has changed our whole day let alone morning!!

His later wake ups mean I’ve been getting a chance to get myself sorted and prepared for my little whirlwind when he gets up!!

I’ve also been giving him breakfast as soon as he wakes up, that’s cut out early morning TV time and asking for cookies every morning!!

I can’t express enough how much of a difference this has made to our whole day.  Everyone starts the day less grumpy and it really does set the tone for the whole day.

Not sure if it’s connected but Arthur is showing less and less interest in the TV, he does like it on but he rarely sits through anything any more.

Arthur does have time on the iPad every day.  It’s the same time every day and it’s always taken away after the same amount of time.  It’s not connected to the Internet and only has the apps allowed by us.  He is always really good when it’s time to take it off him.  There are some that will be quite judgemental of us allowing him to play on it but now he’s not napping it’s the only truly quiet time  I get during the day.  It gives me a bit of time to reset and get some stuff done and so for us it’s all good.

He is showing much more interest in his toys each day.  He plays so nicely and it’s really lovely to watch as well as jumping in and getting involved with him.

One of Arthur’s favourite games to play with me is ‘picnic’.  The best thing about this is that we use nothing to play it except our imaginations!  We sit down and munch away on whatever Arthur fancies ‘eating’ at the time, it quite often involves sweeties and chocolate cake but just as often some juice and apples (just like his real life requests!)
He also loves to sit down and read stories both with us and alone.  I love listening him to while he “reads” any of his stories it’s so cute!

I am being increasingly aware of the fact that Arthur will be starting school soon. He will be going in for the last half term of the school year, I think just for mornings and maybe only a couple days a week depending how he gets on! He will be starting properly in September. I’m trying to soak in all the moments I can with him right now. Don’t get me wrong there are times when I’m totally ready for him to, like mid tantrum; but in general I know I’ll miss him lots when he starts!!

Arthur and Freddie {February 2016}

This has been a very busy month for Arthur and Freddie.  We have moved house and have had a week without Mark while he went to London to interview new teachers for the school.

We have been so proud of how they have dealt with such a big month.

Now Freddie is babbling and starting to sit up they are interacting even more.  Arthur has a special voice he uses only when he speaks to Freddie, it’s so sweet.  I continue to be so impressed with how gentle and tolerant of Freddie he is.  Freddie is also very tolerant with Arthur, because sometimes Arthur is a little over zealous with his affection to him….Freddie will definitely grow up tough!!

Arthur and Freddie {February 2016}

I say it all the time, but these two really are such great little buddies.  Arthur wants Freddie to do everything he’s doing, and Freddie definitely wants to be doing everything Arthur does.

Arthur and Freddie in the garden Arthur and Freddie in the garden


I love watching these two together. Every laugh, cuddle and kiss they share makes me so happy. It always makes me laugh at myself for all the worry I had about how Arthur would react to having a little brother, they are such a great little team!!
As always I look forward to seeing what the next month will bring for my two little guys!

The Me and Mine Project

Freddie is 6 months old

Freddie is 6 months old.  Half a year already!

There is not a day that goes by where we don’t fall more in love with this little guy!

Freddie is 6 months old


I was certain that by the time I started writing this Freddie would have a tooth or two the amount he has been drooling and biting on things, but he is still our little toothless wonder!!  Teething has been horrible this last month.  We have really seen Freddie struggle with it, its been horrible.  I have to say that its also come as a bit of a shock to me.  That might sound sort of weird but Arthur’s teeth popped out a lot quicker than this and bothered him for a day or two but other than that he wasn’t too bad.  Another part of how different babies can be that we are realising!!

Weaning has now well and truly commenced and this month Freddie has certainly found his appetite!  This boy is absolutely loving his food now.  Initially he wasn’t so sure, but now he is unstoppable!!  He has so far loved everything we have given him.  Mostly he is still having puréed food, but that won’t be for much longer I don’t think.  I wanted to wait for Freddie to be able to sit up by himself before properly starting baby led weaning, he’s pretty much there now.

6 months old. Weaning.

So yes thats another thing, its a pretty big deal really!  Freddie is sitting up!!  Each day he is able to sit up for a little more.  He’s done around a minute or so now.  Its been amazing watching him get better and better at this.  Mark had to go to London for work at the start of this week and he couldn’t really sit up at all and now almost a week later and he’s able to do it so much better!  I took this picture the other day and it kinda sums up this week, Freddie looks so proud of himself sitting up, but at the same time a bit shocked.  He also looks very wobbly, which he was…he toppled over a couple seconds after that picture was taken.  It’s not the best quality picture as it was hurriedly snapped but it’s the first one I have of him sitting up so it will always be special!

6 months old.  Starting to sit up unaided


Sleep, its been tough this month I’m not going to lie.  I’m putting it down to teething.  Calpol does help anyway.  I’m not going to dwell on it, because I’m too tired and don’t want to get grumpy!!

Freddie still absolutely loves to be in the water.  Now we have a big showers in our new house he can splash around in the shallow water with lots of room.  Arthur is always there too and they love splashing together.  The swimming pool is also still a big favourite, he seems so comfortable and relaxed in the water.  That makes me so happy!!

I’ve got Freddie’s 6 month check up on Monday, so I’ll write about that another time.  Fingers crossed its all fine.

I can only hope that the next six months will see Freddie continuing to be the happy smiley little one that he has been so far.  I know he will carry on bringing us all so much happiness, far more than he will ever know I’m sure!

raising awareness: expat stuck parent

About a month ago I was browsing through my Twitter feed and I came across a retweet of @ExpatStuckParentint
I took a look at the account thinking it might be a new expat family blogger!
It wasn’t, in fact it was kind of the opposite! It is a site dedicated to helping ‘stuck’ expat parents. I had never heard of this before, I clicked through to their website and read on.
After reading, I really wanted to help them raise awareness so offered them a guest post on the blog. So now I’ll hand you over to learn a little more about something I hope none of us will need!!


Hello expat parents: we’re excited to be guest blogging for Seychellesmama and to tell you about us… in the hope that you will never need us!

raising awareness: expat stuck parent is for mums or dads who find themselves trapped in a foreign country because the other parent forbids them to leave with their child/ren. It is also for parents who are forced to leave without their children because of this. You may already know a family in this situation, or may come across one in the future, so we are writing this in the hope that you will be able to offer help by pointing them in the right direction.

What does it all mean? Well, you may not realise this, but if your relationship doesn’t work out and you wish to go home with your child/ren, it’s not that easy. You can’t just up and go, even if you are subject to abuse, or your child is, even if you don’t have a visa to remain in the country after a divorce, or any means of supporting yourself: there is an international law, called the Hague Convention on International Child Abduction, which will generally insist that custody issues are settled in the country in which the child has ‘habitual residence’. Unfortunately, the term ‘habitual residence’ is a grey area and can come into force within a few days or weeks, or after a year or more.

To get a better idea of what this really means, here are a couple of imaginary scenarios for you (we have used examples where the mother wishes to return ‘home’ as our statistics show that 97% of parents wanting to return home are mothers, while 92% of them have suffered from abuse, mental health or drug/alcohol problems with the other parent, although of course fathers can also find themselves in such situations):
1.​Andy and Joanna move to New Zealand as Andy has been offered a job there. Joanna is a stay-at-home mum, looking after the couple’s toddlers; she does her best to make friends and settle in to their new home but it’s just not the same… and then Andy has an affair. Joanna decides to get a divorce and plans on going home to Liverpool with the children. She doesn’t tell Andy much about her plans as he has already moved out and is living with his new partner. She returns to Liverpool after less than a year in NZ … what happens next?
2. Shelley left the UK to study in the USA. She met someone and moved in with him but he turned out to be abusive: the police were called several times until she finally gave up and left him. She then realized that she was pregnant but managed to continue with her studies. She has very little contact with the father of her child, who is not interested in his baby. A few years later she is offered a job in France and moves there with her baby… what happens next?
Unfortunately, in both these scenarios, and in many others, the parent in the country where they all were can invoke the Hague Convention and the courts are very likely to insist that the children must return to where the ‘left behind parent’ is and where they had lived, even if it was only for a short time. Shared custody is likely to be the court’s solution, meaning that, in the examples above, the mother then has to remain in that country if she wants to be close to her children. She may not have any support there, no job, perhaps not even a visa that allows her to work or to access any benefits, and this may ultimately result in her deportation. However, the courts are only concerned with where the child is and not with the child’s continued relationship with both parents or indeed with the child’s relationship with their primary carer.
What can we do to help? We were set up in 2012 by mums who have been through it, come out the other side but have not forgotten! We have a lively Facebook page called ‘Expat Stuck Mums’, a twitter feed – @ExpatParentInt and our website. We aim to:

  • Prevent parents from falling into this trap by offering our Pre-emigration contract which helps parents to plan in good time what will happen should the move not work out for them both:
  • Raise awareness to prevent this situation through working with the media; contacting decision makers; attending migration fairs and publishing information
  • Support parents through email and Facebook; sharing experiences and linking up parents so they can form local support networks
  • Campaign to change the law so that expat parents wanting to return home are not put into the same category as abduction cases. We are currently writing a new campaign and would welcome your input!
  • We are also really excited about this year because we are applying to become a registered charity (so keep a look out for a relaunch of our site with our new name!). Often people assume that we are paid, have premises and oodles of resources BUT actually we are volunteers doing this in our spare time, whilst working demanding jobs and looking after our families! Wherever you are, if you would like to volunteer please get in touch.

If you need help or support, for yourself or for a friend, or just want to know where to look for confidential advice, you can reach us by email: / website: / Facebook: expat stuck mums / twitter: @ExpatParentInt

My Expat Family 19

Hello and welcome to My Expat Family 19 the ninteenth ‘My Expat Family’ blog link up.

A a big thank you to everyone who linked up last month if you missed it take a look there are lots of fab posts there to read! I hope you enjoy reading the posts as much as I do! 

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You can start to link your posts from Thursday 11th Feb and I’ll leave the link up open until Sunday night.

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